I used to think prodommes were “real” while my Queen was only “pretending” to top me. I have since come to realize that my thinking was ass backwards, self defeating and have changed my point of view. My change of attitude has reaped tremendous rewards and probably saved my marriage.
I found the key was asking myself a simple question; “what’s in it for her?” Instead of insisting that everything revolve around me I now make a sincere effort to give my Queen loving and devoted service to the best of my ability. It is difficult to say who benefits most from the arrangement we have now. I think perhaps she does which is exactly as it should be! After all I am the slave! :-)
I enjoyed reading HMP’s entire entry but the line I emphasized touched me the most. Couldn’t all relationships benefit from a balance like that? Not knowing who benefits most seems like a wonderfully exciting, relationship-fulfilling place to be.
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