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Randomness for January 11th

Monday, January 11th, 2010

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As I lie here all comfy and warm, I find myself thinking that even though my day was long and I’m quite tired, it was a really good day. I suppose it’s that satisfied tired that comes with knowing you’ve achieved some of your goals.

Several days ago I resumed my workouts at the gym. Sometimes it’s difficult to find the time, but I’ve decided there are some things I am going to have to *make* time for and that’s one of them.

Today as I was lying back on the exercise bench, I began thinking about what a great place a gym is. I need several of those pieces of equipment in my house :) For example, that exercise bench. Having him lie his beautiful, naked body* back on that bench, tying his wrists up over his head, and teasing him. Fingers traveling over his body, watching him tighten with excitement, hearing his breathing quicken, feeling his cock stiffen. My body responding to having him there, helpless and aching. I can think of a couple of different ways he can please me, can’t you? ;)

I think I’m going to have to persuade Bill he really doesn’t need that workshop in his garage. I need my *own* “workshop” ;) Who cares if it’s his house and I work for him? There are just some things a woman has to have!

Along with the lovely fantasies and exercise, I made a concerted effort to follow through on one of my recent resolves (no, not a New Year’s resolution – those are simply anticipated failures for most people). I am trying to share the nice thoughts I have about people as often as I can. I’ve always believed people are too quick to say the negative things and are stingy about the good things. It takes so little to text, for example, and say “hey – I think you’re sexy and I’m so glad you’re in my life”. How often are most people told how sexy they are? Not enough, I’m sure.

I also had a funny run-in with Richard today. I was in the kitchen fixing dinner, bending over to pull a pan out of the drawer at the bottom of the stove, when he came in. Now I know it’s more lady-like to squat but hey – it’s a lot more fun sometimes to bend – it gives one’s male acquaintances something to appreciate ;) He stopped for a moment and initially didn’t say anything. Finally he remarked – in quite the sassy tone, I will add – that he would be more inclined to “submit” to being a kitchen houseboy if he knew the view was so good. Richard is so not submissive so his remark was cheeky to say the least (smiles). Without thinking, I tossed over my shoulder that his sassy self could kiss my behind. He laughed and I thought that would be the end of it. As I stood at the sink, I heard a motion behind me, turned, and found him kneeling on the floor, his lips inches from my bottom. “Only ask for what you want, Missy.” He didn’t cross the line and totally misbehave, but – the cheek! Sass like that cannot go unpunished, can it? Let the plotting begin.. ;)

And finally in the “what’s going on in Lady Julia’s world” department, I’ve been doing some work on a new site called “Simple Dominance“. It’s primarily designed for women who are new to the idea of dominance and feel a bit overwhelmed by that “what do I do now” feeling that strike most of us hard in the beginning and occasionally rears its head even as we mature as Dommes. It’s my hope that I can create a place where dominant women feel a bond and gather naughty, exciting, evil cowgirl-like ideas. There’s often a lot of competitive feelings among women, but that seems especially true for dominant women. While I do a lot of writing with male readers in mind, it would be lovely to have a place where the ladies can share ideas. I may even begin some type of forum if I can figure out where to add something else a little time consuming to my life.

At the moment there’s not much there because I’m trying to write fresh articles and not simply copy and paste what I’ve done before. If you are interested in sharing some ideas with me (whether you are male or female), I’d be happy to post any that seem as if they fit with my theme for the site. (I’m trying to stay away from the extreme as I don’t want to really frighten someone taking their first steps). Not everything submitted will be posted, but I will, as always, appreciate any efforts :)

There’s more to tell, but all that will have to wait for another time.

Sweet dreams :)

~ Lady Julia

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* Many body shapes and sizes are beautiful to me. It’s the entire man that excites me.

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Braving the Winter Cold

Monday, December 28th, 2009

It’s been a busy few days but overall it has been quite enjoyable. In just a few minutes I’m heading out into the frosty winter air with Richard to see Clint Eastwood’s “Invictus“. I had just enough time to post a “pop-in, say hi, and leave again” post :)

How have your holidays been so far? Any major plans for New Year’s? We’re not sure yet what’s happening on New Year’s Eve and Day so I’m hoping hearing about your plans will trigger ideas for my own!

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So It’s The Middle of October..

Wednesday, October 14th, 2009

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And this is my first blog post. It’s hard for me to believe it’s been a month since I have posted anything or even approved comments. Did you miss me? ;)

Just a bit of randomness today as I don’t have a lot of time…

Richard suffered a heart attack several weeks ago and since his discharge from the hospital he’s been staying here with us. As you can imagine, even with help taking care of two patients is keeping me rather busy. I’m not complaining as Richard has become like family to us, just explaining what’s happening.

I haven’t responded to email in a couple of months so I’m pretty sure most of you think I fell off the face of the earth. I’ll get to you when I can.

Now, on to more exciting things. Just for a moment, allow your eyes to wander up to the photo. Can you imagine what is about to happen? If so, I’d love to hear your thoughts.  Personally, I see Evil Cowgirl fun in his future ;)

I know this is short and flows really poorly, but you’ll forgive me for that, won’t you? I’ll do better with my next post :)

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Randomness for July 8th and the Evil, Evil Cowgirl

Wednesday, July 8th, 2009

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I thought you might enjoy knowing I’ve added a few more stories to Femdom Fantasies. I am so very pleased there are a few people willing to contribute to this site as I think it has a lot of potential. If you would like to submit a story for publication, please email me.

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I’ve just discovered an interesting Wordpress feature. Users have the option to write posts at any time and then schedule them to be published whenever they desire. This would prove useful if I am going to be away from the computer for several days and wish to keep the flow going :) As I am going to the mountains at the end of next week I will test it to see how well it works.

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Yesterday I went out for a few hours with Richard. He and I have become really good friends and I very much enjoy hanging out with him. He’s funny, intelligent, and he doesn’t let me push him around (well, not too often anyway ;)

We went to dinner and had a nice long talk about Femdom and kink. I haven’t mentioned it here yet, but a couple of weeks ago I told him all about the Domme thing. He wasn’t really shocked, but I think like David it took him by surprise because he had a preconceived notion of what being a Domme means. I enjoy talking with he and David about all things Femdom because they ask intelligent questions and they make me think about the whys and hows. Sometimes I can’t answer their questions at the moment they ask and that impresses me. I like it when someone is intelligent enough and thoughtful enough to make me say, “I don’t know – I’ll have to think about it and tell you later.”

On the way home we were waiting in traffic at a very busy intersection when an accident occurred. Of course being a nurse and possibly the only healthcare professional on the scene, I jumped out of the car, and while Richard pulled out of the way of traffic I approached the damaged vehicles. There were three people inside the most severely damaged car. The two in the front were injured but able to exit the vehicle. The one in the back appeared to have sustained more serious injuries. I couldn’t get inside the vehicle on the driver’s side because the door wouldn’t open, so I approached the passenger’s side door.

Standing blocking the door was a man taking photos. I cannot imagine why anyone would think this was ok, but that wasn’t the time to even consider the why of the situation. I identified myself as a nurse and asked him to move.

He ignored me.

I tapped him on the shoulder and again asked him to move, explaining I was a nurse and I needed to get inside the vehicle to check on the person inside.

When he turned I realized how tall and big he was, but by that point I didn’t care. He stared down at me, still refusing to move – an act that completely infuriated me. In a quite loud and angry voice I warned him, “Get out of my way NOW or I will deck you!”

There was some nervous laughter in the crowd. Some I am sure found it somewhat amusing that a woman would be threatening to deck a man who was a foot taller and at least 100 pounds heavier, but frankly I didn’t care. Some I am sure were nervous about how the situation was going to play out.

After a few seconds of glaring at me he moved and I was able to get inside the vehicle to do my checks. Fortunately the injuries weren’t as severe as I anticipated and the police and EMTs arrived right after.

I cannot imagine why this man would behave the way he did, but even more than that I cannot understand why no one at all stepped forward to help me stand up to him. Richard arrived right as the man was leaving or I am certain he would have helped me.

Several people did speak up and inform the police about the insane photographer, but by the time the police were in a position to deal with him, he had slithered away.

On the way home Richard asked what I would have done had the man not moved. No one ever really knows for sure what they “would have done”, but I was so concerned about the injured and so angry at this man that I honestly believe I would have decked him. I have never hit anyone in my life (outside of sexual play), but I was not about to stand there and let that person possibly put someone’s life at risk.

So I guess the Evil Cowgirl did put in an appearance but this time, she was evil evil instead of fun evil. I’m not proud that in the heat of that moment I couldn’t think of any other option to make that man move, but I didn’t have time to search for more tactful options.

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Randomness for June 3rd

Wednesday, June 3rd, 2009

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I’m thinking Richard has the makings of a really good houseboy, not that he would be thrilled to hear me say that :)

Earlier tonight I wasn’t feeling very well so he offered to fix dinner, eventually shooing me out of the kitchen and telling me to leave everything to him.  Since my tummy had convinced me that I wasn’t interested in eating anyway, I went out to run some errands while dinner cooked and he and Bill ate.  I expected to find a huge mess when I returned, but much to my surprise the kitchen was all spic and span.

Before I could even think about what I was saying I remarked, “Well aren’t you a good boy!”

His eyes rested on my face for a moment.  “I have always hated for someone to use that word in reference to me, I especially dislike it now at my age.  I suppose I could put up with it from you.”  His grin signaled that he wasn’t too upset.

Good thing, as I doubt I can break myself from that  habit anyway :)  “Oh you know you like it.  Most men like knowing they’ve made a woman smile, even when they can feel themselves being wrapped a bit tighter around her little finger – or maybe even because of that.”

“Hmph”.  He turned and began walking to the family room, grumbling a couple of times on the way and then laughing as he rounded the corner.

I do like a man with a good sense of humor.

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While I was out earlier I overheard a woman in line at the pharmacy proclaiming in a very loud voice to her companion that all men were bastards.  She certainly caught my attention right away and also the attention of everyone around her.  “None of them can be trusted.  They’re all unfaithful, lying bastards.”

To my surprise, several women in the line were nodding in agreement and one was even verbally agreeing.  The men who were in line or standing near the line were all looking either away or down at the floor.  Ordinarily I would have jumped to their defense, but circumstances prevented me from doing so.  Part of me thinks I’d give anything for a do-over so that I could speak up, but the practical part of me says that most people aren’t going to change how they feel about something like that unless they do so on their own.

I can understand how some might feel that way.  I’ve been hurt a few times in my life and I wasn’t too pleased with the people who hurt me.  That said, I do not ever remember feeling that way about *all* men.  Perhaps it is the Pollyanna in me but I find men to be pretty decent overall.  In many ways I pity the women who are so bitter that they think all men are bad because that point of view can keep them from meeting someone who will prove them wrong.

Do you find people are increasingly dissatisfied and distrustful with members of the opposite sex or is it simply that the people who are dissatisfied are the ones who talk the most?

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I am currently in need of 5-6 people to write short, non-fiction pieces for me.  I have the topics and a general description of what I want.  There will be no research as you’ll be writing strictly from your experience.  If you communicate well in written form and are interested, please write me.

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I’m still working on the first post in my “When A Woman Agrees To A Femdom Relationship” series. Instead of rushing into it, I want to take my time and make sure I say precisely what I mean. Stay tuned for that one.

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Someone wrote today and asked me why I don’t share more personal, specific information about my relationships.   I don’t mind writing some things, especially when it isn’t clear who I am referring to, but overall I respect people’s privacy and wouldn’t wish to make them uncomfortable (unless uncomfortable feels good, of course ;)    While this means I don’t write about specific and deliciously juicy things very often, there are certainly plenty of people out there who tell everything.  I don’t believe anyone is missing out by me exercising a bit of discretion.

I could share more things in a general way, removing identifying traits, changing a few details and thereby protecting egos and identities.  I have hestitated to do this in the past because it felt a bit as if I were coloring the truth, but perhaps if I explained that a few details have been changed to protect identities and feelings, then I could share stories a little more often.  I’ll think about it.

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Randomness for May 16th

Saturday, May 16th, 2009

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In the News:

~ ~  Today is US Armed Services Day.   Thank you to all the service men and women who have fought to protect our freedoms.  You are the real heroes of our time.

~ ~ I’m at a bit of a loss with regard to the 50something Christchurch NZ man who was sentenced to nine months home detention for injuring two girls – ages 15 and 17 – in a BDSM session.   He’s being re-tried because the judge wouldn’t allow him to use the defense of consent, not just because of the girls’ ages, but because the injuries were semi-permanent.

First of all – nine months home detention for an SM session with a 15 year old???  Then to say the man can rightfully use the “they gave me fully informed consent” defense now??   What is wrong with people?   If he’d stolen someone’s car he would have undoubtedly been sentenced to more time than he received for engaging in SM with someone’s 15 year old child – and it would have no doubt been in prison, not his home.

About My Day:

~ ~ Earlier today when I was upstairs preparing to go out, Richard arrived to stay with Bill.  I must have been in the shower when he rang the doorbell because I wasn’t aware that he was already in the house.

I was standing in front of the mirror wearing only my panties, lamenting my decision to get my hair cut and trying to decide what to wear, when I remembered I’d left the camisole I wanted to wear in the clean laundry basket that was still sitting outside Bill’s bedroom door.  I hadn’t finished putting up the laundry when it was time to hop in the shower, so I just left it there to finish as I was waiting for my hair to dry.

Since Bill was downstairs and couldn’t come up without my help, I wasn’t too worried about fetching my camisole while I was dressed (or not dressed) as I was.  After all I knew I had the freedom to roam almost naked without being seen.

Just as I approached the laundry basket outside Bill’s bedroom Richard walked out.  He’d been in Bill’s room to retrieve something for him and thanks to the radio I hadn’t heard him in there.  My face was red, his face was red, and I stood there frozen for a second like some character in a Looney Tunes cartoon.  It’s funny how many thoughts can pass through your mind in a few seconds.  Should I say something?  Should I just turn and walk back to my room?  Would he be watching me all the way if I did?  After all, willingly walking around in front of someone wearing almost nothing is a whole different thing from accidentally doing it.

Gentleman and quick thinker that he was, he reached down, pulled a towel from the basket and held it out, all the while squeezing his eyes shut.  “This will never be mentioned again”, he promised as I turned and walked back to my bedroom.

I’ve been wanting to get to know Richard better and was even getting comfortable enough to consider letting him know more about me, but that was a bit farther than I had intended on going :)  Still, I got to know a lot about the sort of man he is from those few moments that seemed to last forever.  In spite of the embarrassment I felt, I liked what I learned about him.

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It’s Getting Hot in Here

Saturday, May 9th, 2009

I’m spending a quiet Saturday evening in – already dressed in my favorite jammies, sipping a glass of white wine and eating a piece of chocolate while I think about what all I want to share with you.  Mmm… life is good.

Just a quick side question… are jammies ever sexy?  Hmm.. probably not.  Well at least they aren’t the kind with feet in them ;)

Anyway, as I mentioned in my previous post, I went out to a movie and dinner last night.  What I didn’t mention is that I went in the company of four men.  Sounds decadent doesn’t it? ;)   Well, ok, ok, they’re all my friends, but still – who wouldn’t have fun with that much testosterone for company?

I had heard mixed reviews from others about the new Star Trek movie, but I have to admit I really enjoyed it and the fellas seemed to as well.  My only problem was that I was sitting in between Bill and David and they teased me for getting teary-eyed a couple of times.  I can’t tell which two spots made me tear up because I don’t want to spoil the plot for anyone but I’m one big emotional bundle lately so they shouldn’t have been surprised :)

After the movie, we had dinner in a very nice restaurant.  The fellas were having a good time playfully harassing me about several different things.  I just smiled and told them the only reason they felt as if they could even try to get away with this was because there were four of them and one of me – the odds were finally even.

Richard is someone who is relatively new to my circle of friends, but since he’s really nice I like him and feel pretty comfortable with him.  I’ve gotten to know some more things about him over the last week as he’s been coming by to see Bill almost every day, but I haven’t really told him much at all about myself.  When he would ask, I would tactfully turn the conversation back to him.  Tonight, I suppose encouraged by the presence of the others, he was a little more assertive in his questioning.  Nothing too nosy, nothing out of line at all.  Just general things – what books did I enjoy reading, what types of movies did I enjoy, what hobbies did I pursue.

When he asked about hobbies, Graham, David, and Bill all exchanged glances, then quickly looked back at me.  I wasn’t certain what they expected me to say to this man I barely know.  “I like to tie men up and tease them til they are begging for release.”?  “Sometimes I have my male friends all around the world tie red ribbons around their cocks to remind them that just for a little while I have taken control”?  I mean really.

I mentioned photography, writing, and that I dabbled with recreational hypnosis.  I really expected him to zone in straight away on the hypnosis, but to my surprise he was initially more interested in my writing.  What subjects, what genre, was I published anywhere, etc.   Since I decided I wasn’t ready to answer questions about my online presence, I gave some vague replies and steered the conversation toward the hypnosis.

“I’m not really a believer in hypnosis,” he said, looking around for some sort of agreement from the others.  Finding none, he asked, “You don’t all really believe in that stuff, do you?  That someone can make people do silly things?”

Ohhh.. a bit of a challenge…

We talked for awhile about what hypnosis was and wasn’t.  Bill and Graham were able to share a number of  stories about being hypnotized, stories that seemed to intrigue Richard a bit but didn’t totally convince him.  David, who I must remember to thank for feeding me the most perfect line, asked, “Why don’t you just tell him a little about how you would hypnotize someone.”

I watched him lean in a little as I began to share how easy it was to help someone relax, because relaxing is something we often do without conscious effort.  I do so love it when they lean in… I know I have their attention ;)  I continued on, explaining a couple of techniques while deliberately lowering my voice a bit so that he would have to really concentrate to hear me.   Not only was he concentrating and leaning in but David was as well.  While I didn’t really want to hypnotize Richard – again I don’t know him well at all – David on the other hand has been my subject before.

I turned my attention to David and reminded him of the last time I had hypnotized him.  “You remember how good it felt, don’t you David?  How easy it was to let go and slip down into a nice, deep hypnotic place?  To feel your conscious mind letting go and to allow that wave of relaxation to spread over your body?”

He nodded slowly.

“You’re feeling a bit that way now, aren’t you?  As if it would be the easiest thing in the world to do to let go and let me guide you for awhile.   Isn’t that right, David?”

“Yes,” he replied in a voice much quieter than usual.

I continued on for a little longer and then offered a suggestion that after he awakened, he would find that every time I touched his forearm, he would feel a flush pass over his body.. something warm enough that he would feel the need to say, “it’s a bit hot in here, isn’t it?” and would then shift a little in his seat.  This would continue until I remarked, “I think it’s cooling off now”, after which he would revert to normal.  Finally, I suggested he would not remember anything that was said during the time he was hypnotized until I spoke the phrase, “You’re really a good sport, aren’t you, David?”  At that point, the memory would return.

To be honest, I wouldn’t hypnotize just anyone in a crowded place, and I wouldn’t suggest not remembering unless I knew doing so was ok with the individual.  I’ve had enough opportunities to talk with David, Graham, and Bill about hypnosis that I knew I had permission to do whatever I wanted.  They trust me.

I suggested to David that I was going to begin chatting once again to the others at the table and as I did, he would awaken and in a few moments would rejoin the conversation.  I glanced at Richard and his expression was more open than it had been before.  I took that as a good sign.  He also looked a bit dazed ;)

We talked a little more about the movie and then I reached across, touched David’s forearm, and asked him to catch the waitress’ attention when he could.  He nodded, ran his hand across his face, remarked, “It’s a bit hot in here, isn’t it?”, shifted in his seat, and then called for the waitress.  Bill and Graham both chuckled and agreed.  Richard looked from face to face, I think to see if he could figure out if we were putting him on.

After the waitress left, we carried on chatting about various things.  Three other times I touched David’s forearm, and three times the same thing happened.  The last time he remarked that it was hot, I replied that I thought it was cooling off.  He agreed.

The conversation continued and after a few moments, I rested my hand one last time on his forearm.  He flushed a bit and shifted in his seat, but didn’t say anything.  I thought it odd that he had stopped responding to part of the initial suggestion but not all of it.  Still, he had done well.

“You’re a really good sport, aren’t you, David?”

Initially he looked a bit confused and then he began to laugh… his face still quite flushed.

All this was more than Richard could take without remarking.  “So do you remember what happened?”

David acknowledged that he did.

“And you weren’t putting me on?”

“I like a joke as well as anyone but I wouldn’t fake something like that because I know it is something LJ is very serious about.  It wouldn’t be respectful to her.”

Richard silently absorbed David’s reassurance.

Graham on the other hand was too curious to remain silent.  “I don’t understand why you flushed and moved around in your seat when LJ rested her hand on your arm after she told you the suggestion would no longer be in effect.”

David hesitated, then replied, “How would you respond if she was touching your arm, her eyes all lit up like they are right now, and she was talking to you in that way she sounds when she’s been hypnotizing someone?  Her voice is sexy all the time, but when she is being hypnotic….”

Richard laughed and winked at me.  “That’s the one thing out of all this that is easy to understand.  I may have to have my own demonstration to fully comprehend the rest.”

Cheeky man.

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Knowing the Lady

Sunday, May 3rd, 2009

Yesterday’s Derby Party was really a lot of fun.  My horse didn’t win, but he came in fifth.  That’s ok, because the winner’s story was so exciting.  A 50:1 long shot thoroughbred purchased for $9,500 won the race by over six and a half lengths.  Only one horse has had greater odds and won and only one horse has won by a greater distance.  For some reason, that all really made me happy.  I guess it’s because as with most people, I like it when the underdog wins.

There were only a few of us there:  my mother, Graham, David, Richard, a couple of other friends, Bill and myself.  I’ve mentioned Graham and David several times in the past, but Richard is someone I haven’t really introduced.  He’s a 50 something fella who has been friends with Bill for quite some time and has recently started staying with Bill 2-3 days a week while I go out.  He’s a nice guy and someone I’m enjoying getting to know.

We all had a great time at the Derby party.  Mom and I wore our favorite derby hats, we grilled steaks, and had all the things I mentioned yesterday and more.  It was quite a feast for such short notice.  The only problem with a feast is there is always a lot a cleaning up to do afterward.

Ordinarily whenever there is a co-ed gathering in our area, especially a gathering in which the watching of sports is involved, there seems to be an unwritten law that I’ve never really understood.  Once the meal is over, if you don’t have a penis, you clean up while those who are blessed to be male sit and watch the event or talk about sports until it begins.

It’s not like that whenever there’s a party at our house.  We ate in the family room so we could watch the race preliminaries.  When we were finished, Mom and I stood up to begin clearing up the mess.  As soon as we stood, David and Graham did as well and immediately began helping.  Even Bill who was not feeling very well jumped in and did a bit.  After a couple of moments, Richard was on his feet assisting.

Later, when almost everyone was gone, Bill told me Richard remarked that while he was throughly happy to help with the after-meal cleanup, he was surprised that the men, without being asked, jumped up so quickly to assist the ladies instead of vegging out in front of the TV.  Bill laughed and said, “You don’t know Lady Julia very well, do you?”  (No, he didn’t really call me Lady Julia – he used my real name ;)

Richard apparently admitted that he didn’t, and added, “She doesn’t seem like the type to bitch or boss people around, so what do you mean?”

Bill, laughed again.  It would seem Richard has been forewarned I have a way of nicely getting men to do what I want.   It will be interesting to see how he reacts to that knowledge in the future :)

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