Archive for November, 2008

My Chauffeur

Saturday, November 15th, 2008

Recently I had what I thought to be quite a delightful dream.  If you’d enjoy hearing rather than reading about it, click here to allow me to whisper in your ear.

You arrived at my door prepared to take me out for the evening.  Taped to the knocker was a note penned on perfumed stationary.  “Let yourself in – your orders await.”

A slow smile spread across your face and I’m certain your body must have responded.  After all, you do so love it when I’m a bit bossy with you.

Unlocking the door, you stepped inside and found yourself gazing at your reflection in the mirror adorning the entryway.  Lipstick letters spelled out your directions:

Pick up your tuxedo from the cleaners and don it.
Go to Maxim’s and pick up the limo that’s already been reserved.
Arrive back here in precisely one hour.  Do not make me wait.

Your smile spread into a grin as you turned and hurried to do my bidding.

The doorbell rang in exactly one hour.  Prompt, just as I expected.

As the door swung open, your eyes widened.  It would seem you appreciated the short, low-cut black dress I was wearing.

“First, to the sex toy shoppe on 21st Street, Driver.  I have a few purchases to make.”

You stared after me for a moment and then hurried to open the limousine door.  My fingers caressed your cheek for a moment before I slipped inside.  As we pulled away I could see a bit of your face reflected in the rear-view mirror and lowered my head a moment to hide my smile.  My, you certainly were excited.

At the sex shoppe you were instructed to keep the car running and wait while I made my purchases.

“Yes Ma’am!”  You do know how I love to hear those words, don’t you?

I took my time in the shoppe, examining all the treasures inside.  Finally, I exited with my selections hidden in a large black shopping bag.

As you held the door for me, I brushed up against you a bit, my hand lightly caressing.  Exactly as I expected – already so excited.

“To Remmington’s for a drink, Driver.”

I hummed softly as you drove, my fingers occasionally teasing my nipples.  Yes, I knew you were watching.

At Remmington’s I remarked I thought you would enjoy my purchases.  “What do you think is inside my bag?” I asked.

“I wouldn’t presume to guess, Mistress.  I am sure they are things that will bring you great pleasure.  That’s all that matters.”  Well, it wasn’t all that mattered and you knew that.  It’s important to me that you experience pleasure as well.  Perhaps pleasure through tease, through denial, through a tiny bit of pain – so many options, so many toys.  Still, it was as expected that you put me first.

We left the bar at twilight.  Just enough light.  Perfect.

As you pulled away from the bar and headed toward my apartment, I reached into the bag, pulled out a nice, new vibrator and switched it on.  You turned to look over your shoulder, but remembered your role and snapped around to face the front.  You couldn’t help your eyes drifting to the mirror whenever possible, but that’s of course exactly what I expected.. and what I wanted.

We were just pulling into the driveway when my body arched and the sounds of my release filled the air.

You waited to exit the car, as all good drivers should, until I informed you that I was recovered enough to step out.  As I walked toward the door, I called over my shoulder, “Don’t forget my purchases, Driver.”

As if you could.

Foreplay is Overrated

Friday, November 14th, 2008

From the Telegraph.co.uk:

Foreplay may be overrated according to a survey based on 2,300 women, which found that it has little or no significance when it comes to the likelihood of having an orgasm.

And Santa Claus and the Easter Bunny are real.  Puhlease.

The duration of intercourse – 16.2 minutes on average – is the clincher, according to the research. The findings suggest that sex therapists, who emphasise the value of foreplay, may have that been getting it wrong.

“In contrast to the assumptions of many sex therapists and educators, more attention should be given to improve the quality and duration of intercourse rather than foreplay,” say Professor Stuart Brody of the University of the West of Scotland, and Professor Peter Weiss, from Charles University, Prague.

Or.. how about attention should be given to BOTH foreplay AND intercourse?

Maybe I’m strange but I can’t separate foreplay and sex. Nor can I time either of them. Sometimes foreplay can last for days if you’re inventive, especially if you are an inventive Domme.  When it does, sex will be hot and multi-orgasmic.  Will it last longer than the “average”?  Who can say how long actual intercourse lasts?  If I’m having an orgasmically-good time, I’m not going to be looking at the clock.  I’m sure the time will seem to pass quickly – it flies when you’re having fun, right?

The researchers looked at frequency of orgasm in the women, and foreplay and intercourse data. They concluded the links with foreplay were insignificant. Instead they suggest that the longer intercourse lasts, the greater the probability of orgasm for the women.

Yes, of course the longer the intercourse lasts, the greater the probability of orgasm for women. That’s pretty much a no-brainer, isn’t it? That said, how often are women “ready” for 16.2 minutes of sex without foreplay? Foreplay can never be overrated because it’s an integral component of sex.

At least, that is the case for me.

It might begin with a text message at 10am on Monday.  “Go to the restroom as soon as you can and tease til you almost come.  Then stop.  Remember who controls your cock.”

That night, he pleasures me with his tongue until my body shudders in complete release.  Again.  And again.  He is denied.

On Tuesday morning when I catch him gazing at my body as I lotion it, I smile because it’s clear he cannot pull his eyes away.  “Begin touching yourself and don’t stop until I finish.  No, you may not come.  Remember who owns your cock.”  I smooth the lotion onto my arms, my thighs, my breasts, then finish by bringing myself to climax as he watches.

On Wednesday evening at dinner, I sit beside him in the restaurant.  The tablecloth covers his lap – something for which he is truly grateful.  “Unzip your pants and pull out MY cock.”  I touch and tease til he is almost begging.  He’s not sure if he’s begging not to come right there in the restaurant – or to come.  He desperately wants both.

I adore tease and denial.

That night he strips for me – slowly.  On my command he touches his body and teases himself til he’s right on the edge.  “Stop.”  His look of disbelief both amuses and excites me.  Tonight I orgasm as his fingers probe and caress.

Thursday evening he prepares and serves dinner dressed only in a tuxedo jacket and tie.  He stands obediently beside me so that I can periodically caress his behind.  “I’m so wet now, my sexy pet.  Caressing your bottom always excites me.  Tonight – tonight I will use my cock until I come.  Perhaps if I am well and truly pleased, I will allow you to come as well.”

After dinner, he draws a bath, slowly undresses me, and steadies me with his outstretched hand as I step into the tub.  Candles, soft music, and champagne offer a bit of romance.  He strips when told and kneels, waiting.

My hands caress my body for a moment as I watch him – naked, kneeling, hard – all for me.

He soaps his hands when told and runs them over my body, washing every inch of my arms, legs, and torso.  As he finishes, I nod and his hand slips down between my thighs and he caresses my clit.  Soon moans of pleasure and desire fill the room.

I’m ready.  “Rinse and dry my body, pet.”

He obeys.

I reach to the counter and pick up the leash for his cock collar.  Snap. Leading him to the bedroom has never been more exciting.

Foreplay.

Yes.. definitely overrated.

Three Wishes

Thursday, November 13th, 2008

A few days ago I tagged a few of my fellow bloggers and posed the following question:

A magic genie appears before you (feel free to describe him/her if you wish ;) and offers you three wishes.  There are two stipulations – you may not wish for more wishes and the wishes may not be used for altruistic purposes.  What would you wish for?

Being the delightfully inquisitive person she always is, Lubyanka returned the tag.  I responded yesterday with answers that are totally fanciful.

1. I wish I could undo a hurt that I caused.

2. I wish I could close my eyes and think myself specific places and *poof*! There I would be.

3. I wish when I visualized fantasies they would come true for as long as I wanted in the way that I wanted.

When I woke this morning, I started thinking about purely sexual wishes (not all my fantasies are sexual so I wanted to narrow my list down to things that really turn me on).  I can think of a number of things to wish for sexually, the only problem would be narrowing down the list.   After all, there isn’t a time of the day when I am unable to feel ready and desiring of some level of sexual intimacy.  It takes very little for me to shift into that mode.  Mornings, though – I don’t even have to shift.  I wake up aroused and ready.  Not just ready – eager.. sometimes ravenous.   Thinking about my list led to an extremely pleasurable beginning to the day ;)

Eventually I cooled off enough to pare my list down to three things:

1.  To be able to pause time so right at the moment of his most intense orgasm, I could freeze it and allow him to experience prolonged pleasure.  Since I could pause time, I could do the same for myself, too ;)

2.  To own a secluded beach house with so many windows that I could see the beach from my bed, the living room, and the play room.  Not only would I enjoy looking out, but I quite like the exhibitionist aspect of it as well.

3.  To have a play room equipped with all the things I like, all the things I might like, and all the thinks he likes.  A four-poster bed, ceiling restraints, a massage table, a cage, a sunken bath, and a St. Andrew’s Cross – just to begin with :)

So what about you – what are your three wishes – sexual or otherwise?

Hello There, Big Boy

Wednesday, November 12th, 2008

Since my return from North Carolina, David and I have gone out for a few meals and talked on the phone a number of times.  During one of our last meals together I broached the subject of therapeutic hypnosis.  To my delight he was very interested, listened attentively as I described the basics, and asked quite intelligent questions.

After responding to his questions, I somewhat casually remarked, “If you’re ever interested, I could give you a demonstration.”

“Does it hurt?” he quipped.

“Only if I tell you it will”, I laughed.

“Then why not?  It sounds intriguing.”

Why not indeed?  It was the sort of open-minded, intellectually curious response I’ve come to expect from him.  While I hadn’t described any of the more pleasurable aspects of hypnosis (wink) I did tell him there were all sorts of uses including exploring things that people are not ready to explore outside the fantasy realm.  I assumed he could connect the dots if he wanted to.

I began with a very simple progressive relaxation induction with a smattering of guided imagery, progressed to a counting deepener, and then offered some suggestions for relaxation including a tattoo on the back of his hand that only he could see.  Rubbing the tattoo with his index finger would help him relax any time, any place, as much as he wanted.  Since he has a pretty high-pressure career, I thought he would be able to evaluate his responsiveness to the suggestions on a regular basis.

I really love observing people’s faces as they’re hypnotized, watching as their head droops a bit and the rest of their body quite visibly relaxes.  There’s always this moment of awe in knowing the power of both suggestion and the human mind.

He appeared to be a fairly responsive subject and has since reported that his tattoo has kept him from pulling his hair out on several occasions.  I was pleased not only because it helped him but also that he was open and willing to share in something that deeply interested me.

Yesterday we were talking a bit more about hypnosis and I decided it was the time to tell him about “Lady Julia” and my interest in the erotic and D/s aspects of hypnosis.  He was a little surprised but I don’t think he was shocked.  He asked me if what I do made me happy.  When I replied that it did, he remarked, “Who could object to you doing something that makes you happy?”

I thought then what a great friend he was turning out to be.

Friends.  There’s that word again.  I’ve wondered since I met him if being “just friends” with him was possible given that he initially wanted more.  I would never want to lead him on or hurt him.  I know it’s possible to be long distance friends with men because I have several, but I was concerned that proximity might make that impossible.

From the discussions I’ve seen on here, on a few blogs, and in TCOD, I was beginning to wonder.  I’ve heard some say women are cruel, that they tease and string along men with whom they are friends, and in general are just too much temptation for testosterone driven men to handle.  Others have reported having “friends only” relationships for years that were just that – friends only.

I think for us, things will be ok.  He has reassured me that while he wants more from me, he is happy with being friends and is quite capable of handling that without being hurt.  “I’m a big boy.  I can take care of myself”.  Who could argue with that?

Since then I’ve started calling him “Big Boy”.  For some difficult-to-comprehend reason he seems to enjoy that ;)

Terrific Tush Tuesday

Tuesday, November 11th, 2008

We Remember

Tuesday, November 11th, 2008

For those who served – thank you.  Even though you may not hear it often, there are many of us who appreciate your bravery and your sacrifice.

New Blog Home

Monday, November 10th, 2008

Welcome to my new blog home!  Don’t I look lovely here?  All tanned and thin in my white lace panties.  Go figure.  I never knew how much difference good lighting could make ;)

To christen my blog in some way I thought I’d play a bit of blog tag.  The rules are simple.  I am going to tag five people (Arafin, Dee, Lubyanka, Nigel, and Tom) and pose an age old question.  They in turn will answer, then tag three-five people to answer the same question.  Those people will carry on the process.

Now.  For the question.  Drum roll please…….

A magic genie appears before you (feel free to describe him/her if you wish ;) and offers you three wishes.  There are two stipulations – you may not wish for more wishes and the wishes may not be used for altruistic purposes.  What would you wish for?

(Please don’t climb on the “I should be allowed to use my wishes for altruistic purposes” train.  This is just for fun so indulge!)

Sunday Site Review: Arafin’s Harbour

Sunday, November 9th, 2008
Painting by Jack Vettriano

I swiped this picture off Arafin’s blog. (Thanks Arafin my sweet friend.) Isn’t it marvelous? I love paintings like this because they tell a story without uttering a single word. They’re great inspiration, especially for someone with a very creative mind like Arafin.

On his blog Arafin often takes a painting or photo and weaves the most wonderful stories around them. If you haven’t visited Arafin’s Harbour, stop by. Fans of hypnosis, mind control, and erotic fiction will certainly enjoy his work. Even if that type of writing isn’t your thing, I’m guessing you’ll enjoy the images he posts (smile).

Beware ;)

Saturday, November 8th, 2008

“At this point, dear reader, let me concede one shocking truth. Some young women actually anticipate the wedding night ordeal with curiosity and pleasure! Beware such an attitude! One cardinal rule of marriage should never be forgotten: give little, give seldom, and above all give grudgingly.” –RUTH SMYTHERS, Instruction and Advice for the Young Bride (1894)

Just Friends

Friday, November 7th, 2008

If you are attracted to someone, can you be “just friends”? Why/why not?

I’d really like to hear from as many of you as possible so I’ve changed the comments settings to allow for anonymous comments. Please be sweet.