Recently Dev at Devastating Yet Inconsquential conducted a reader survey. After thinking about it for a few days, I decided I’d like to do the same.
I would be most pleased if you would take a few moments to respond. It’s not long, I promise, and you will have the opportunity during the survey to suggest post ideas.
Does the idea of spending a day (or more) in a “clothed female naked male” situation appeal to you? It’s not something I enjoy over an extended period of time but for a day or so… yum.
Over the next few posts I thought I’d share a few things that tend to draw my attention to a man and often keep it there. I’m not saying that these things work with all women, but I believe they’re something to consider :)
I am intrigued by a man who allows me to see he is interesting. I deliberately phrased it that way because everyone is interesting in one fashion or another. He doesn’t have to be an expert in this or that, simply someone who can chat about things we each find appealing or might find appealing. He doesn’t have to have the broadest vocabulary or be the smoothest speaker. Sincere, thoughtful, open. Those things work.
If you feel you don’t have much of interest to speak about, it may help to maintain an awareness of current events. I have a friend who sends me links to interesting news and human interest types of stories. They’re fun and interesting to talk about and the discussion of these articles allows me insight into so many things about him – his sense of humor, how he thinks and how quickly he thinks, his values, etc.
It’s equally important that he show me he finds me to be interesting as well. I remember exchanging emails once with someone who always made it a point to ask at least a couple of questions in each email. They weren’t always personal questions. In fact, most often they were “what do you think about ____” or “what would you do if _____” types of questions. This accomplished a couple of things in addition to affording him the opportunity to get to know me better – I knew right away he found me interesting and his questions allowed the dialog to continue. We exchanged emails for quite some time because he knew how to encourage a response.
If the lady of your dreams leaned against you, tempting you with the soft curves of her body while running her fingertips along your jawline, would she have at least a tiny bit of your attention? If her lips moved to caress your ear, her warm breath causing your body to tremble – even though perhaps you hate to admit that as a man you trembled – while her hand slid down and caressed your bottom.. would everything around you cease to exist for at least a few moments? If she murmured softly that she wanted you… would you deny her anything?
What if her one requirement was that you woo her?
It seems that the art of wooing is quite difficult for many men. Oh, not the smooth operator guys, but the average joe – especially the average joe who is a bit submissive.
I can understand that. Every now and then on the rarest of occasions, a few women can be the tiniest bit difficult to read. Then there’s the whole “I’m the submissive – she’s the Domme – she should tell me every single thing to do” rule. (Oh wait, that’s only a rule in fantasyland.)
What would you do?
I ask because, in spite of it all, there are some women – dare I say it – even some dominant women – who want to be romanced. There are some who want to be chased til they catch the men they want. And.. while I doubt the figures I often hear regarding the numbers of submissive men versus the number of dominant women, there are more of you than there are of us.
How would you capture her attention and then hold on to it?
Don’t forget to pop over to Arafin’s blog to check out his selection for “Fabulous Face Friday”. He’s not only the creator of FFF but he often pens the most delicious stories to accompany his choices.
Occasionally I stumble across a photo or other piece of art and instantly identify with it. Somehow the artist has created something so expressive that not only is his message heard but it represents how I feel at the moment. I thought I’d begin sharing those under the category of “Expressions”. If nothing else it will allow me to share some truly beautiful creations with you.
I’d like for you to move in a little closer. That’s right. Close enough for a nice, intimate conversation with me. Very good. I’m always pleased when I know I have your total attention ;)
It’s time for “Confessions”. It’s a simple little game, really. Consider the photo. Does it stir memories? If not, surely it stirs a fantasy or two. I’ll share mine and of course, you’ll share yours. Now… I’d be more pleased if you shared a few details, but I will settle for “did it”, “want to do it”, “don’t have the nerve to do it but dream about it”, “seriously I would never do that”,, etc.
Just so you understand that I’d receive the most pleasure from reading the details…
For me, an under the table moment like this falls in the category of “did it on more than one occasion”, “want to do it again”, and “it excites me right now to think about it”.
The best part of moments like this is watching his face, especially if he isn’t expecting it at all. I quite enjoy sitting in a restaurant, keeping a very straight face while talking about something totally unrelated, and sliding my foot onto his lap. It’s priceless to do this when the wait staff are present and taking his order. To watch his face redden, to see him squirm a bit.. and best of all to feel his body respond… yum.
It’s also lovely to be sitting at home watching a movie, having told him he is frozen and may not move, and finding myself caressing him in this manner. It’s a test really… how long can I concentrate on the movie when I feel him harden and hear his breathing quicken?
That it’s time to start blogging again. I know, I know, I’ve said that before, but really – it is time. When I don’t write for awhile I become quite restless. It’s as if some thoughts can only escape through my fingertips – primarily things about which I am hesitant to speak without giving them serious contemplation. As a rule I tend to be a sliding board speaker – most things that enter my mind slip quickly down and pass through my lips with no hesitation. As you might imagine, this often creates sticky situations for me… the good kind ;) and the bad kind.
Anyway, since it’s getting crowded up there, I’m mulling over a few ideas for posts. For example, what happens when life becomes so much like a pressure cooker that an ordinarily always-ready-and-interested-in-sexy-things type of woman just cannot seem to find a way to get “in the mood”? Another thought… do those egotistical shock jock-ish wordsmiths help or hurt their “cause” by spouting off so outrageously that people only read *because* it’s outrageous and not because they’re being convinced to agree? Just a couple of the things I’ve been thinking about lately.
At any rate, I’m sad to say blogging is about all I have time to do right now. I regret that I can’t respond to emails and usually cannot talk on the phone. Almost all my energy at the moment is focused on my job and my family. I promise though, it will get better. It has to – I miss you all too much.
Just peeking in to say hi and hope everyone is well. I really miss everyone, but I’ve just been extremely busy in my every day life. I have gotten a few “I’m worried about you” phone calls and emails so I wanted to post something letting those who are concerned that I am ok, just exhausted. Bill’s been sicker so work is taking up a lot more of my time and then for the last couple of weeks my nephews have been here. Busy busy but that part was enjoyable.
There is one new thing. For those who have my address, the box number has changed. If you have the old one and want the new one, please write and I will send it to you.
Soft hugs,
Lady Julia
