Archive for May, 2009

Terrific Tush Tuesday Part II

Tuesday, May 26th, 2009

I love opera gloves.  These are gorgeous but I like mine better because my whole hand is covered.   Wearing them always, and I mean ALWAYS turns me on.  Watching my velvet covered hands wander over him, carressing, teasing… seeing his eyes widen and hearing his sharp intake of breath as my gloved fingers wrap around him… it’s just so sexy.

Need a gift idea, fellas?  Consider them.  They’re not for every lady, but I think that many would really enjoy them.   And of course, if she enjoys it, so will you ;)

Terrific Tush Tuesday

Tuesday, May 26th, 2009

How much better could life be? ;)

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Decoration Day

Monday, May 25th, 2009

I wanted to take a moment to remember all those who paid the ultimate price to serve our country.  Regardless of our feelings about war, hopefully we all respect the heroic bravery of our soldiers.

For those of you who served or are serving, thank you.  I’m convinced those are two words you can never hear enough.  May you all be truly blessed.

Foot Slave

Monday, May 25th, 2009

I’m curious, would it excite you to be a foot slave for a sexy Domme?  Perhaps slave is too strong a word, but I imagine there are many of you that are excited at the thought of kneeling, your lips and your tongue attentive to her beautiful toes…

About Hypnodommes and a Bit of Randomness for May 23rd

Saturday, May 23rd, 2009

Even though my spare time is a bit limited, I have been thinking a lot about re-writing and adding to my website.   Writing relaxes me and I can use a bit of relaxing.

Today I added a piece entitled, “What is a Hypnodomme?”   If you have any suggestions or comments, please let me know.  Keep in mind that I want it to be simple and comprehensible to people with no background in hypnosis or D/s.

We opened the pool this week and I’m so glad.  Few things are more de-stressing for me than floating, eyes closed, listening to music and letting my mind clear.  Even Rhododendron guy can’t make it less pleasant.  Well, maybe a little, but not too much.  In addition since swimming laps is much more enjoyable when it is 90 degrees than walking ever could be, my exercise program will be more fun.

Tonight I’m sitting here with a glass of wine, listening to some Rat Pack era music on Pandora.com, while watching Bill and Richard playing videogames.  Some men are really cute when they play.  They are so fiercely competitive and they concentrate so intently that I am certain they have forgotten I am here.  It crossed my mind to find out what it took to capture their attention, but they seem to be having so much fun that I think I’ll just continue to watch.  Sigh.  I think the Evil Cowgirl is slipping…

Of course there’s always tomorrow for her to make an appearance :)

David just called and asked if I wanted to go see the new Wolverine movie.  Let me think… sit here and watch Richard and Bill play videogames or go see Hugh Jackman on a huge movie screen.  Hmmm ;)

Fabulous Face Friday

Friday, May 22nd, 2009

I know I’ve been quiet the past couple of days.   I’ll write soon.

Happy To Be In This Minority

Friday, May 22nd, 2009

“While 75 percent of men always reach orgasm during sex, only 29 percent of women report the same. In addition, most women are unable to climax through vaginal intercourse, instead needing clitoral stimulation.” – National Health and Social Life Survey

Thank heavens I’m a Domme.

Femdom Hypnosis: Uniformly Informed Consent (part 3) by Arafin

Thursday, May 21st, 2009

Arafin (c) 2009

A power exchange relationship, be it temporary or long term, may not be for everyone, especially if it involves hypnosis, but for those who are lucky enough to enjoy all the aforementioned satisfaction of a Hypno D/s relationship there are some fringe benefits that few others come to so easily.

Learning to trust deeply, completely, and without the bothersome tribulations of constant inspection and doubt is a thing long term vanilla couples sometimes achieve, yet short term vanilla unions rarely make it to this realm. A Hypno D/s connection, even a part time or short term one, can, and should, contain such trust. Because good Hypno D/s connections are carefully thought out and engineered in order to promote safety and sanity, and because the sexual pleasure these types of connections often allow both parties to realize, there is an underlying deep background satisfaction which permeates both people. This, along with the trust spoken of above, can resonate through mundane necessities of life, making them not only less mundane but sometimes downright exhilarating. Imagine a sub washing the Domme’s kitchen floor and getting off on that otherwise most ordinary of tasks while the Domme derives deep joy from seeing such devotion. The possibilities are endless.

It is no secret that many vanilla men show less endurance in bed than women would wish for. This is a combination of biology and cultural expectations, both of which can be addressed quite successfully with hypnosis. With Femdom hypnosis an even greater success can be realized in the form of tease and denial. Men like to be sexually teased, to strive for a release that is just out of reach, while women seem to like doing the teasing. The incorporation of Femdom hypnosis into tease and denial can yield intense pleasure for both parties involved, so much so, in fact, that it becomes a trusted and relied upon way of life which moves such a relationship forward not only in time but in depth. To attempt this type of hypnotic tease and denial without informed consent would be to invite danger and sorrow into one’s life. To attempt it with informed consent would be to invite ever expanding joy.

Then there is the joy of service without any expectation of sexual pleasure at all. What relationship is about sex all the time? Certainly not anything intended to last beyond a few hours. There lies within every serious connection between two people a level of satisfaction that comes from companionship alone, of just having someone to be with, to look out for and be looked out for by. In a Femdom hypnosis setting there can also be a much more intense joy of pure servitude than vanilla couples usually realize, again the intensity enhanced with hypnosis and built upon informed consent. To know that one serves, or is served, with complete trust established by previously open and honest inspection of self and one’s partner, is to know a kind of stability which transcends the more fleeting state of trust created by the emotions of sexual activity.

The rewards of informed consent are directly proportional to the uniformity with which mutual faith in one another is established, both in the beginning of a Femdom hypnosis relationship and all along the way.

Randomness for May 19th

Tuesday, May 19th, 2009

At the moment I’m sitting here watching the final episode of this season’s “24″ (Oh no… whatever will we do with Jack in the pickle he’s in??).   “Lost” ended last week (I’m make a comment here but T will get me for posting a spoiler, won’t you T?) and “American Idol”  (Would you agree Allison should be in the final instead of Chris?) will conclude on Wednesday.  I’m not particularly fond of most summer programs so I suspect I’ll be getting in four more hours of reading a week.   As such, I picked up a few books online and at the bookstore today:

The Revolution:  A Manifesto by Ron Paul.  I can’t make up my mind what I think about Ron Paul so I thought his book might be interesting.

Predictably Irrational:  The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions by Dan Airely.  Psychology is an area in which I have had a bit of training and of course everyone is concerned about the economy at the moment.  When I saw Airely’s theories were based on a combination of economics and psychology I was intrigued.

The Digital Photography Book by Scott Kelby.  This winter I pulled out my camera and started taking photos again.  It’s been so long that I’m really, really rusty.  I thought I could use a few pointers :)

I Was Told There’d Be Cake by Sloan Crosley.  I was looking for something a bit different and this one seemed to fit the bill.   When I pulled up the link for it on Amazon and read the reviews, I was a bit regretful I bought it.  Still – sometimes reviewers haven’t a clue.

Instant Self-Hypnosis:  How to Hypnotize Yourself With Your Eyes Open by Forbes Robbins Blair.  No explanation required, is there? :)

It’ll be awhile before I can get to them as I have a bit of a backlog, but one can never have too many books on hand :)

While I was there, I chatted with some friends I hadn’t seen in a really long time.   A year or so ago I used to visit the bookstore coffee shop and strike up conversations with the people if they appeared friendly and responded to my smile and casual “hello”.   There were several “regulars” who would go there several times a  week and chat while drinking coffee/sodas.  We discussed books, current events, politics, whatever came to mind.  I always found this interesting because it was a bit of a mix.  Several were in their 50s, a couple in their 60s, and one fella was relatively close to my age.  In spite of the fact that this is a very conservative, very religious area, there was quite a bit of diversity with our political and religious views.  Today I spoke with a 50-something couple I knew and a gentlemen in his early 60s.

We were discussing the economy and the efforts President Obama and Congress have made with all the stimulus program.  It’s funny how quickly and easily you can grasp people’s opinions without them ever uttering a word.  Their facial expressions, their body language – it all spoke volumes.  It’s so sad that our country is so split.  Instead of working together, almost half the country is in serious opposition to the other half.  Sure, I know it’s been like this for a long time, but now – now when things are so bad, it’s a shame we can’t find the common ground and try to work together a little more.

On a more positive note, since the hypnosis book was lying on top of my stack (how did *that* get there?? ;), it did serve as an impetus for a really good conversation on the topic.  I was surprised at how open they all three were to hearing more on the topic.  Usually people here view hypnosis in one of two ways – it’s evil or it’s bunk.  Since they were interested, the discussion was lively and (for me) exciting.  We were talking about how much fun it would be not only talk about it more but to have perhaps a demonstration.  Since they’ve kept in contact with some of my other bookstore friends, they agreed to pass on the word, and next week those interested will come by our house.  I am so pumped!  It’s been a long time since we’ve had a party and a room full of people open to the concept of hypnosis sounds like the makings of something really fun :)

Oh, and Richard called me a few minutes ago. He said he hadn’t “seen” me in awhile and as he wanted to “see more of me”, he wanted to know if I would be home tomorrow. He stressed the words in quotes and then laughed. Smarty pants. He is really, really asking for it :) (Is that the Evil Cowgirl stirring? Oh yes…).

(No, he’s not breaking his promise. We agreed we could laugh about it.)

A Bit of Humor – Well I Thought It Was Funny, Anyway :)

Tuesday, May 19th, 2009