Arafin (c) 2009
What is it exactly that is so attractive about power exchange? Is it the previous lack of control that is now being fulfilled? Is it the thrill or the challenge of taking a risk? Can it be the intensity of pleasure which can far exceed it’s vanilla counterpart? All of these reasons are true.
When a person becomes very attracted to another there is usually an inherent loss of critical thinking, a decrease or loss of conscious analysis. In a vanilla encounter this is often mutual and equally experienced by both parties. However, in a D/s encounter the dominant person is expected to maintain critical analysis of what is going on and thus be in control. Of course, in order to get to that state both people should have the good sense to employ critical thinking in order to establish ground rules. This is informed consent at it’s birth stage. As the connection between these two people progresses this informed consent and the boundaries it supports allow for the submissive to increase and maintain faith that the dominant is steering things safely and sanely. Finally, if and when a situation of complete and utter acceptance on the part of the sub is achieved the informed consent which was so crucial in forming this relationship in the first place is now the very glue which holds it together. The feelings a sub realizes from being controlled and the feelings a Domme realizes from being in control are strong and very concentrated, a beautiful symbiosis of power exchange which rests on a foundation of shared confidence.
While this confidence is reassuring there also exists right along side of it an entirely different animal, and “animal” is not a word used here by accident. A vanilla relationship can be very exciting, to be sure, but a well crafted Hypno D/s relationship can be thrilling far beyond that. The thrill of letting someone control one’s mind with hypnosis is like no rush found elsewhere. It can be intense almost beyond imagining. In this way a Hypno D/s relationship is engineered whereas it’s vanilla counterpart is largely a thing of constantly unfolding coincidences, adjusted for and accepted as best one can on the fly. An element of the unknown is ever present in a Hypno D/s relationship, but that element is both more thrilling and at the same time more planned. It has to be planned in order to be safe. Again, informed consent is the tool with which this planning is constructed.
People seek intimate companionship with each other for various reasons, and one of these reasons is usually sexual pleasure. Vanilla sex can range from heaven-like at it’s best to mediocre at it’s worst. People tend to accept limits to the pleasure they experience and stick within that imagined territory. Hypno D/s usually involves pushing past old limits and in some cases removing the outer walls completely. If one can imagine intensity double, triple, or ten times that of ordinary sexual pleasure, then that is what one can experience. Both sub and Domme can realize such joys. Think for a moment about the most highly concentrated instance of sexual pleasure you have ever realized and now picture it increasing exponentially as you accept hypnotic suggestions to that effect. There is no limit to what the mind can feel. In order to approach these new limits of ecstasy one needs to rely on the other, and in order to pass these new limits one needs to have established, through informed consent, something which both nourishes and propels such delights. Trust. Not the ordinary trust two people establish between themselves via trial and error, or even by simple design, but the trust only true informed consent can bring about.
