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Archive for January, 2010
Terrific Tush Tuesday for January 12th
Tuesday, January 12th, 2010Randomness for January 11th
Monday, January 11th, 2010
(Image from photosight.ru)
As I lie here all comfy and warm, I find myself thinking that even though my day was long and I’m quite tired, it was a really good day. I suppose it’s that satisfied tired that comes with knowing you’ve achieved some of your goals.
Several days ago I resumed my workouts at the gym. Sometimes it’s difficult to find the time, but I’ve decided there are some things I am going to have to *make* time for and that’s one of them.
Today as I was lying back on the exercise bench, I began thinking about what a great place a gym is. I need several of those pieces of equipment in my house :) For example, that exercise bench. Having him lie his beautiful, naked body* back on that bench, tying his wrists up over his head, and teasing him. Fingers traveling over his body, watching him tighten with excitement, hearing his breathing quicken, feeling his cock stiffen. My body responding to having him there, helpless and aching. I can think of a couple of different ways he can please me, can’t you? ;)
I think I’m going to have to persuade Bill he really doesn’t need that workshop in his garage. I need my *own* “workshop” ;) Who cares if it’s his house and I work for him? There are just some things a woman has to have!
Along with the lovely fantasies and exercise, I made a concerted effort to follow through on one of my recent resolves (no, not a New Year’s resolution – those are simply anticipated failures for most people). I am trying to share the nice thoughts I have about people as often as I can. I’ve always believed people are too quick to say the negative things and are stingy about the good things. It takes so little to text, for example, and say “hey – I think you’re sexy and I’m so glad you’re in my life”. How often are most people told how sexy they are? Not enough, I’m sure.
I also had a funny run-in with Richard today. I was in the kitchen fixing dinner, bending over to pull a pan out of the drawer at the bottom of the stove, when he came in. Now I know it’s more lady-like to squat but hey – it’s a lot more fun sometimes to bend – it gives one’s male acquaintances something to appreciate ;) He stopped for a moment and initially didn’t say anything. Finally he remarked – in quite the sassy tone, I will add – that he would be more inclined to “submit” to being a kitchen houseboy if he knew the view was so good. Richard is so not submissive so his remark was cheeky to say the least (smiles). Without thinking, I tossed over my shoulder that his sassy self could kiss my behind. He laughed and I thought that would be the end of it. As I stood at the sink, I heard a motion behind me, turned, and found him kneeling on the floor, his lips inches from my bottom. “Only ask for what you want, Missy.” He didn’t cross the line and totally misbehave, but – the cheek! Sass like that cannot go unpunished, can it? Let the plotting begin.. ;)
And finally in the “what’s going on in Lady Julia’s world” department, I’ve been doing some work on a new site called “Simple Dominance“. It’s primarily designed for women who are new to the idea of dominance and feel a bit overwhelmed by that “what do I do now” feeling that strike most of us hard in the beginning and occasionally rears its head even as we mature as Dommes. It’s my hope that I can create a place where dominant women feel a bond and gather naughty, exciting, evil cowgirl-like ideas. There’s often a lot of competitive feelings among women, but that seems especially true for dominant women. While I do a lot of writing with male readers in mind, it would be lovely to have a place where the ladies can share ideas. I may even begin some type of forum if I can figure out where to add something else a little time consuming to my life.
At the moment there’s not much there because I’m trying to write fresh articles and not simply copy and paste what I’ve done before. If you are interested in sharing some ideas with me (whether you are male or female), I’d be happy to post any that seem as if they fit with my theme for the site. (I’m trying to stay away from the extreme as I don’t want to really frighten someone taking their first steps). Not everything submitted will be posted, but I will, as always, appreciate any efforts :)
There’s more to tell, but all that will have to wait for another time.
Sweet dreams :)
~ Lady Julia
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* Many body shapes and sizes are beautiful to me. It’s the entire man that excites me.
Password Protected Posts
Sunday, January 10th, 2010
I keep seeing posts that are password protected. Do I already have one? I don’t remember doing that. How does one get a password?
Lady Julia, why are you password protecting some posts and what do I need to do to get the password?
I originally began adding a password to posts with photos that were a bit explicit. Since no one I know online is a minor, requiring a password that is my real first name insures that only adults access that material.*
The past few days I’ve been thinking about service. That’s an important part of the D/s dynamic for me as it demonstrates sincerity and, well – it gives me what I want ;) There are some things I am doing and will be doing that I’ve decided will only involve people who have done things to serve me in some way. For example, there are a group of men who are working on something for my website. Yesterday I recorded a reading of my story “Caged” and granted them access. They weren’t expecting anything – they were serving me because they want to please me. I’m very touched by that sort of service and thought that warranted a bit of a reward ;)
In the future, some of my password protected posts will contain the word “service” in the subject line. To gain access to them, you may write and offer to complete a task for me. If I’m pleased with the completion of your task, you’ll receive the password. The task will vary from very simple to a bit more complicated. Of course, the rewards will do the same. They’ll all be something that can be done anywhere, any time.
The passwords for these posts will be individual, whatever I think appropriate for the subject matter. It will not be my name as of course, I have chosen to keep that private.
Why don’t you write back to me? I see you are on your computer because I see new posts. I need answers to my questions please!!!!
You would be amazed at the number of emails I receive each day. Because my online time is limited (and some days is almost non-existent), I respond to my friends first and then respond to as many others as my time permits. Sending five emails in two days all pestering me about not answering is a sure way to be ignored. Most people understand that I am not some beck and call girl, but some expect far too much. I do what I do for me (excluding what I do for and with my friends – that’s a totally different dynamic). When my activities benefit people I don’t know that’s great, but it’s not something I owe anyone and I shouldn’t have to point that out. Your question is one that is asked frequently. Since being nice about it wasn’t working, I decided it was time to be direct.
As for the publication of my posts being an indicator that I am online, you’re wrong. Wordpress allows for the scheduling of posts. Sometimes I write things on Friday for Tuesday (as an example).
Be reasonable, be respectful, and I will eventually answer.
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*For those who know my real first name, make certain you capitalize the first letter as it is case sensitive.
If you don’t know my first name, please don’t write and ask. I choose with whom and when I give that information. Asking will only insure I will never tell you.
For Those With a Smoking Fetish
Sunday, January 10th, 2010
(by Fabian Perez)
(by Jack Vettriano)
(by Jack Vettriano)
Protected: Beautifully Sexy
Saturday, January 9th, 2010Fabulous Face Friday for January 8th
Friday, January 8th, 2010
(From Photosight.ru)
There be none of Beauty’s daughters
With a magic like thee;
And like music on the waters
Is thy sweet voice to me:
When, as if its sound were causing
The charmed ocean’s pausing,
The waves lie still and gleaming,
And the lulled winds seem dreaming;
And the midnight moon is weaving
Her bright chain o’er the deep,
Whose breast is gently heaving
As an infant’s asleep:
So the spirit bows before thee,
To listen and adore thee,
With a full but soft emotion,
Like the swell of Summer’s ocean.
~ Lord Byron
Let Go of the Ideal Domme, Site Updates, and More
Thursday, January 7th, 2010
Doesn’t it look as if she’s just been struck with a delightfully wicked idea? And I love the tie – I’d use it to bind his hands – just a little reminder not to touch without asking permission.
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A reader asks,
What one piece of advice would you give to men who want their wives to be the dominant person?
One? Wow. There are several things I consider important, but I suppose in the top five would be, “Let go of the ideal Domme.” I’ve yet to speak with a dominant who meets the stereotype most commonly presented on the web (especially the “on” 24/7 type). If you keep looking for something or someone that doesn’t really exist or is so rare that it’s unlikely you’ll ever see it, you’re going to be miserable and so is she.
The other day I read a post somewhere (sorry, I don’t remember where) that spoke of a man’s dismay at his conclusion that his wife must be submissive too because she helped with the housework. Doing housework is only a submissive’s responsibility in fantasy or if you’ve both agreed to it. Even then, if she pitches in to help, she’s doing it because she wants to.
Doing what she wants to do when she wants to do it and expecting you to acquiesce to her wishes – isn’t that what really makes her a Domme? Arguing with her, trying to change her mind about what she wants in situations in which you’ve agreed to relinquish control – isn’t that attempting to wrest control from her, removing her from the very place you want her to be?
Another reader asks,
What every day activity do you think is sexy?
Watching him cook, especially if he is really good at it. It’s not a “he is hot because he’s doing something submissive” thing. For many people cooking is a stereotypical “woman” thing and I think any time a man feels comfortable breaking away from a stereotype, he’s sexy. (Yes, I know some of the greatest chef’s in the world are men. Still, the stereotype for many is that the woman in a relationship is the one who is the cook.)
One more question from a reader,
What item of clothing in your wardrobe makes you feel sexiest?
If I’m going out, I have this little black dress with a slit on the right thigh side. Combined with stockings, heels, and a sexy bra and panties, I feel as if I sizzle pretty well ;)
If I’m staying in, I have a r*d silk camisole and panty set that feels great.
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If you would like to pose a question, you may do so anonymously here.
Thanks to today’s contributers :)
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I’ve begun updating my other sites on a regular basis (not daily but at least weekly). If you haven’t visited them in awhile, then head on over.
The Silken Web (Hypnosis Related)
The Silken Tease (Orgasm Control, Tease and Denial)
Femdom Fantasies
Simple Dominance
Mesmerizing Women of the Web (links to various Femdom related sites and blogs)
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I really appreciate all those who are commenting on my blog posts and who are leaving questions for me to answer. It means a lot :)
I Prefer Being Inspired…
Thursday, January 7th, 2010
A friend, who shall remain anonymous wrote:
“A 50ish divorced woman online was describing how a new lover (after a long dry spell) had completely changed her opinion about morning sex. I paid attention, because morning sex has never worked for my wife. I actually messaged the woman to ask her about it. The “old” me would have been too embarrassed to ask anyone about sex. *shudder*. She told me that any time her husband kissed her, it was a prelude to making love. (“Guilty as charged,” I thought.) But her new lover would kiss her passionately and then go have a shower. She loved it that he had no expectations. A kiss was just a kiss. I resolved to do the same. I was amazed at how fast my wife responded.”
I sincerely echo her sentiments – I much prefer being inspired to being pressured.
Perhaps this might be helpful for those attempting to persuade their wives to dominate them? I suspect pressure is seldom met with a favorable response.
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I find the above photo very touching. It’s tender and a bit tentative – perhaps like someone who is just beginning to learn the joys of being in control of the man she loves.
Sunday is No Pants Day – Are You Ready?
Thursday, January 7th, 2010Sunday, January 10, 2010 is “No Pants Day“. Can you envision yourself participating in something like this? :) I’d like to say I would, but I don’t think my very conservative town is quite ready.
Groveling, An Abundance of Men, and More
Wednesday, January 6th, 2010
She looks like she’s having fun, doesn’t she? There’s something about her attitude and playfulness that seems to fit how I feel today :)
This is just a hodgepodge entry as I have a few random things to say.
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A question from a reader:
Would you rather have one man groveling at your feet for life, or at the other extreme is the more the better?
Well.. I’m not that into groveling (yes, I know – what??? A Domme that doesn’t like groveling???) :) I do like to hear men beg – umm mmm that’s totally yummy. To me the word groveling makes it sound as if the person is a bit unworthy. I prefer a man who kneels for me to be very worthy of the privilege. So, if you meant begging or pleading because he’s desperate to touch me or to be allowed release, then yes I like the idea of that one special person who kneels for me and begs when I require it. As a fantasy, the whole idea an abundance of men doing the same is quite exciting ;)
Another reader asks:
Do you wear stockings or pantyhose?
When I was working in a hospital I wore pantyhose for practical reasons. Now whenever the occasion calls for it I wear stockings with a garter belt.
JT asks:
What do you think is the sexiest thing about your boyfriend or the man who currently interests you the most?
His brain. I love intelligent men. His sense of humor is a close second.
An anonymous reader asks:
What are some of the gifts you received for Christmas?
Earrings (yum – love dangley earrings), a sapphire and silver bracelet, some gift cards to the book store, The Phantom of the Opera movie DVD (the one with Gerard Butler), Michael Buble’s “Call Me Irresponsible” CD, the Soundtrack to Sleepless in Seattle (before you laugh, look up the track listing – it has some great songs on it), a couple of books including the latest Lisa Gardner book, and money from my family towards the purchase of my new Nikon D3000 digital SLR.
If you have questions you’d like to ask, you may do so anonymously here. Please be respectful.
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I’m going to be doing a hypnosis “experience” for those who are interested. Details may be found on The Silken Web.
More later as I’m busy busy :)
