Archive for February, 2010

Freedom

Saturday, February 6th, 2010

(Image by Lady Julia)


“The freedom and happiness of man are the sole objects of all legitimate government.” – Thomas Jefferson

I think someone neglected to mention this to the New Orleans city government. No, I can’t get that story out of my mind.

Simple Dominance

Saturday, February 6th, 2010


Not too long ago I introduced “Simple Dominance“, a blog designed for those women who are new to or are considering a Femdom / Female Led Relationship. While many profess that “real” Dommes are “naturals” and that dominance requires no effort on the part of these paragons, I have found that most of us can use a little help from time to time.

I’ve written a few pieces and will continue to write as time permits and inspiration strikes. My hope is that some of you will be interested in participating as well. If contributing appeals to you, please contact me. I have a pretty firm idea about the tone and direction I want the blog to take, so please don’t be offended if I don’t accept all submissions or ideas for publication.

In addition to writers, I’m looking for some people who will volunteer to respond to questions I post there. Clearly not everyone will have answers to every question, but I think those who desire to help will find they have responses for most questions. My goal is to offer insight into how the minds of some dominants and submissives work. Clearly no one answer will “fit” with anyone else, but I believe these response will offer food for thought.

Currently I am hoping some of you will respond to this question.

Even though this site is designed for dominant women, I suspect my style of presentation will occasionally appeal to the fellas who read there ;)

RSS Feeds For My Sites

Friday, February 5th, 2010


A reader asks:

There does not appear to be a RSS link on your Silken Web Site. Is that intentional?

No, not at all. I have it listed in my Google RSS Reader and it works. Try these feeds and please let me know if you continue to have problems:

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Sex Workers in New Orleans Labeled as Sex Offenders

Friday, February 5th, 2010


I realize I’ve been posting a lot of “issues” pieces lately but these things are bearing on my mind quite a bit.

Just a few minutes ago I read something I wouldn’t have believed possible in 2010. According to Alternet.org:

New Orleans city police and the district attorney’s office are using a state law written for child molesters to charge hundreds of sex workers like Tabitha as sex offenders. The law, which dates back to 1805, declares it a crime against nature to engage in “unnatural copulation” — a term New Orleans cops and the district attorney’s office have interpreted to mean anal or oral sex. Sex workers convicted of breaking this law are charged with felonies, issued longer jail sentences and forced to register as sex offenders.

How can this be? Oral and anal sex are “unnatural copulation”? What’s next? Arresting people who are engaging in the same “unnatural” acts in their homes? So.. the DAs, the chief of police, the police officers – none of those people are participating in these heathen activities?

According to Alternet’s article, many of the convicted are among the poorest of the poor. Most cannot receive assistance or food stamps to aid with their plight because of these felony convitions. If these women are forced to evacuate to a shelter because of hurricane warnings, they are required to go to a special “sex offenders” shelter where there is no separate space provided to shield them from male sex offenders. I would assume this means they also may not stay in any shelter under normal conditions. Their driver’s licenses have a label affixed labeling them with this status, and they must send out cards to all the neighborhood notifying them of their presence in the community.

Many of these street workers have been turning tricks since they were young teenagers. Whatever their age or circumstance when they began, I cannot imagine many, if any, of these women are working the streets because they want to do so. How are they ever to walk away from prostitution if they not only have no help, but they are branded in a way that must make it almost impossible to get a job?

Surely there must be a better way – a hundred better ways – to deal with this issue. I can’t even imagine how this is Constitutional. I, for one, consider it cruel and unusual punishment.

Heartbreaking.

Cheater’s Penis Superglued…

Thursday, February 4th, 2010


It sounds like a TV movie of the week.   Four women – an adulterer’s wife, his two girlfriends, and one of their friends – meet and over the course of months discuss a plot to teach Romeo (Davis) a lesson.   Eventually one of the ladies lures him to a motel where the four women tie him up, blindfold him, and verbally ridicule him.  Then.. one of the ladies (Ziemann) is struck with the bright idea of gluing his penis to his stomach with nail glue (similar to Super-glue).

All four were originally charged with felony false-imprisonment but their charges were reduced to disorderly conduct as a result of plea bargains.  Ziemann was also convicted of battery.  Each received one year probation and community service.

Fair?  Did the fella have it coming?  Too lenient?

If the situation were reversed and the victim had been a female who was blindfolded, tied up, ridiculed, and well -I’m sure you follow.  Would your answer remain the same?

Would the following information change your mind?

“Ziemann said after court that she behaved badly and the sentence was fair. She said she didn’t participate in the attack because Davis was cheating, but rather because her young daughter’s phone number was found in his telephone. Davis was acquitted this year of sexually assaulting a child after a mistrial in 2008.” – Postcrescent.com

LOST

Wednesday, February 3rd, 2010

In response to my post, “Twelve Reasons Tuesdays Rock”, a reader writes:

Per your last post, Hurley’s stomach resembles mine, so perhaps there is hope after all. Have fun.

I think LOST’s Hurley (played by Jorge Garcia) is a sexy guy. He’s sweet, funny, playful, adventurous, courageous, and loyal among many qualities. A guy doesn’t have to be a particular body shape or have a certain appearance to be attractive. Terry O’Quinn who plays John Locke is quite sexy too. I like big guys and bald guys. Oh and geeks. That doesn’t mean I don’t find other appearances and qualities attractive. It just depends on the person.

In the comments section, Mike asked:

Who is you favorite male character on Lost? Female character? Who would you most like to train?

Those are really difficult questions to ask a LOST fan :) I like some of them for different reasons. If I were to choose the one I’d most want with me if I were lost, it would probably be Sayid because he would be the most likely to help me stay alive. The male character I find the most likable would have to be Hurley. My favorites are Locke and Benjamin Linus because they are so complex and evoke strong emotions. Ben (played by Michael Emerson) is simply the best character I’ve ever loved to hate.  Emerson seems nothing like Ben in real life so I suspect of all the cast, he is probably the one with the most talent.

As the most likable female character, I’d have to choose Rose. She’s smart, kind, and practical. The most complex and therefore most interesting female character is probably Juliet. (None of the female characters are as complex in my opinion as the males.)

Who would I most like to train? I’d most like to train Sayid to kneel. Yes, that’s a lustful answer and I freely admit it ;) The most interesting to train would probably be Sawyer. He has that whole arrogant, blustery, I’m-a-con-man-so-I-can-get-anyone-to-do-anything attitude that would be so lovely to conquer ;)

Twelve Reasons Tuesday Nights Rock

Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010

Tattoos Linked to Deviance

Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010

According to an article on Cnews.Canoe.ca:

Texas Tech University’s study, which will be published in March in the Social Science Journal, says that people with two or more piercings or tattoos are more prone to deviant behaviour, which includes excess drinking, smoking pot, being promiscuous and being willing to cheat.

To draw such conclusions, researchers must have studied a diverse group of people.

Researchers asked 1,753 students from four American colleges — two state-supported public schools and two highly selective religious institutions — and found 37% reported at least one piercing and 14% were tattooed.

So instead of studying all ages, they focused on college kids.  Are adults 25 and older conspicuously free of piercings and tattoos?

What they found was “sharp differences in the levels of deviant behaviour among those with just one tattoo versus those with four or more, and among those with just one to three piercings versus those with seven or more,” reports sociologist Jerome Koch, the paper’s lead author.

“Results indicate that respondents with four or more tattoos, seven or more body piercings, or piercings located in their nipples or genitals were substantially and significantly more likely to report regular marijuana use, occasional use of other drugs, and a history of being arrested for a crime.”

Perhaps the willingness to “report” these behaviors is the most important aspect to consider when interpreting these “scientific” findings?  Is it possible college students in more conservative areas of the country*, especially those attending religious universities, are less likely to admit doing anything “deviant”?  I drank quite a lot in my early 20s, but I wouldn’t have admitted it to anyone other than the people I drank with.   At that age I was more concerned with what people think than I am now :)

Also, am I alone in my intense dislike for their use of the word “deviant”?  I am aware of the technical meaning, but most people use that word as a way to make others sound terrible instead of different.   Isn’t the occurrence of these acts in college age kids more about curiosity coupled with new-found freedom to explore?

What about you?  Do you think there is any real link to tattoos and deviance in people of any age?

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Thanks to John, Manet, and Bill for sharing their observations about this study.  It’s great to be surrounded by super smart people :)

*Another article I read indicated these colleges were in the South and the Midwest

Terrific Tush Tuesday For the Geeks Among Us

Tuesday, February 2nd, 2010


Speaking of geeks..

Have I ever mentioned how hot I consider geeky men to be?

Hot. Very hot.

“Come here and let me take you on the spot”, hot.

Her Majesty’s Plaything

Monday, February 1st, 2010

I used to think prodommes were “real” while my Queen was only “pretending” to top me. I have since come to realize that my thinking was ass backwards, self defeating and have changed my point of view. My change of attitude has reaped tremendous rewards and probably saved my marriage.

I found the key was asking myself a simple question; “what’s in it for her?” Instead of insisting that everything revolve around me I now make a sincere effort to give my Queen loving and devoted service to the best of my ability. It is difficult to say who benefits most from the arrangement we have now. I think perhaps she does which is exactly as it should be! After all I am the slave! :-)

~ Excerpt from “A Birthday Goes Unnoticed“, written by Her Majesty’s Plaything

I enjoyed reading HMP’s entire entry but the line I emphasized touched me the most. Couldn’t all relationships benefit from a balance like that? Not knowing who benefits most seems like a wonderfully exciting, relationship-fulfilling place to be.