Dearest Pet,
Your orgasms are mine to control. Do you know how much that excites me? Thank you for the gift of your surrender. It may not be as easy as you thought, but I assure you it will be more amazing than anything you have ever imagined.
I know you have questions. That’s good. Understanding what this means is crucial if you are to be a good, obedient boy. Smiles. Yes, I know that made you squirm and I like knowing that. You want so much to be a good, obedient boy and that pleases me more than I can say.
A few ground rules (I will add to these as we progress):
You may no longer touch yourself for pleasure without my permission. You may not ask to touch. Period. The choice is mine now since *I* own your cock.
In addition, you may not view porn or read erotic literature until I direct you to do so. Are you surprised by the word “until”? Don’t be. There will be times when I will direct you to watch videos that excite you. Sometimes you will be allowed to touch when you are reading something sexy. At other times you won’t. Tease, denial – both so good. Isn’t that right?
Just as there will be times when I direct you to tease, there will be times when I will tease you myself. The pleasure you feel will be shared pleasure because I enjoy doing this as much as you enjoy having it done. Sometimes you will be allowed release. Sometimes you will be denied. Both are my ways of controlling you. Neither is “more” control than the other. When I alone have a say about what happens to your cock, then that’s control – not the act I have you do. It’s important that you understand this.
There may be days at a time when I do not allow you to touch. At other times, I may allow you release every day. Your submission to me will not be effected by this because your submission is a choice. Your choice. As a strong, intelligent man I know you will regard your choice to submit as a sacred thing. I would expect nothing less.
During sex, I will use your cock in any way I choose. No position, no act is “dominant” or “submissive”. Your focus will be on your surrender, mine on my control.
Get ready, my pet. Regardless of how, when, or where, I know we will both enjoy the ride ;)
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I thought this would be a fun way for me to express my philosophy on orgasm control.
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Lady Julia,
Hardened by life’s scarring, confronted by my own weakened strength, I am tempered by the essence of so sacred a choice as you demand.
I am driven both by the power that binds me, and the nature of the force which allows me to choose between the pain entailed within the struggled choice and the perils entangled around the freedom of so sacred a bonding.
Thusly, I bow to your control; I surrender.
Respectfully,
willie
…and you would be correct.
The way you say it… just seems to make so much sense. Who wouldn’t want to try what you just described?
What a delightful method of expressing yourself, to bring the reader right into the experience as a participant. But this is often your way, isn’t it? That delicate balance of control on the edge, of surrender to the unknown, the trust, the caring, …… all this you illustrate in a few short paragraphs as beautifully as any maestro conducts a symphony.
That is the clearest explanation of Domme driven orgasm control that I have ever read. Usually when I have read things about orgasm control it’s the submissive who is actually in control.
You really explain things well and in a way that makes it feel up close and personal.
“Pete Mitchell Says:
The way you say it… just seems to make so much sense. Who wouldn’t want to try what you just described?”
Heh, well, I certainly have no interest in trying being on the receiving end of that arrangement, but then, I’m a dominant woman, so maybe tops just aren’t attracted to adopting a bottom role?
Gosh, who knew. :p
I would not want to try to dominate in this way because there is no way to control a boy if you allow him frequent orgasms. They become inattentive and lazy. The best way to control him is to lock him in a device where he can’t do anything. If you don’t then you have no way of keeping them from jacking off and cumming and then lying about it.
Your writing is too fantasy driven. The reality is no man can be controlled like you describe it.
So just what do you consider to be too frequent Lady Lisa? Surely you have to allow some pleasure in order to enhance control. Are you saying a sub should not be allowed to orgasm at all?
Dear Bossy Friend,
This post brings back such wonderful memories of some of your guided “experiences.” Your experiences placed my mind in a place that I would gladly go again if you were the guide.
Will
Will: I’ve been thinking about that…
Lisa: I suppose it could be that I meet a different type of man. The men with whom I interact are not worthless, simple-minded, or untrustworthy. I much prefer a strong, self-confident man who chooses to kneel than someone I have to lock up because a device is the sole way of controlling them.
There’s nothing at all wrong with using a chastity device. It’s all about the place where our minds are when we use them. I don’t want to use one, therefore I can’t get to a place where in my mind it is a tool for control – *I* want to control him. I know there are people who can get to this place and the device works really well for them. The difference here between you and I (and actually, there are plenty of differences between us) is that I am fully aware there is more than one way to look at this situation.
Well said Lady Julia!
I would like to do this and agree to Your rules. When do W/we start?
Thank You.
Oh in a rush… BUt I’m coming back to read this again… and maybe again… ;-)
submissive boi As I mentioned in the post, I just posted this to give an example of my ideas on tease/denial and control.
I have just found your site this evening Julia and I like the way you think. Your views on the issue of female “superiority” match my own and I am bookmarking your blog to come back to.
Thank you for maintaining this.Oh and great pictures.
Peace