I’m really beginning to enjoy myself with you.
Watching you kneel to taste me. Feeling your hands caressing the soft curves of my behind. Seeing my wetness on your face after your lips and your tongue work together to bring me to climax. Leaning forward and running my own tongue along your lips to taste myself. Yes.. I love that.
Tying your wrists and ankles to the bedframe with soft, silky scarves. Leaving you aching and unable to touch. Providing you with the perfect view to watch as I slowly remove my clothing and allow my fingers to caress each newly exposed area of flesh. Laughing in delight as you futilely strain to touch after seeing my fingers stroke the softness between my thighs. Moaning with abandon as my body arches in release while you remain controlled by my silky softness – controlled and denied. Mmm… yes, I love that.
Slipping my finger inside my warm wetness. Smiling at your helpless form lying on the bed, your arms and your legs still bound. Running my sweetly-coated finger along the tip of your hardness. Laughing yet again in delight as your body stiffens and you pull against the scarves, your cock jerking in response. Teasing and stroking til you are begging for release. Wanting it but not wanting it – your mind consumed with that delicious confusion. Standing, kissing your cock – your cock that is now my cock – then turning and leaving the room. Glancing over my shoulder as I do to see the surprised, helpless, and completely aroused look on your face. Oh yes.. I love that.
It’s easy to love doing these things with you because I feel sexy when I am with you. You let me know in so many ways that it is me you desire - not the kink, not the control – just me. That’s really important to me. If you are only interested in the kink and the control, then what makes me any different than a prostitute or a professional Dominatrix? I admit it took awhile in the beginning for me to feel sexy when doing new things. After all, I’m older and not as fit as I was when I was 20. Your loving attention and appreciation for my body and the things we do have helped me grow in confidence.
It also helped that you didn’t present me with a really far out list of things you wanted. I know you want those things but to expect me to go so far so fast is totally unrealistic and completely unfair. It’s much better if you are patient and let me move forward at my own pace.
Some of the things you want are things that I will probably never be able to do. I know that’s difficult to hear, but it’s not fair for me to tell you I will when I know deep down inside I can’t or won’t. I will do some of the things you desire when I choose and when I desire them as well. As time goes by I will probably do more because my confidence and comfort level will grow. Please don’t push me or try to manipulate me as that only undermines what you say you really want – for me to be in control.
In the end, we each will have to give a little to find a place where we can both enjoy what we have. I’m willing to do that and I hope you are as well.
(This post is a continuation of my “if I were a vanilla woman and my partner wanted me to dominate him and/or be the boss” series.)
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This series is brilliant! I love the way you took things that are mostly vanilla and showed how hot they can be with a woman who knows how to control her man. You don’t have to do the extreme things to be fucking hot. You prove it all the time!
I agree excellent series. Very provoking on many levels.
Mike
Lady Julia,
I am in awe of your creativity, intellect, skill and sexuality. You truly inspire me to better things, being a better person, a better writer and better partner. I am glad that I am alive to follow this series and read your words.
Rob
What does David think about all of this? He has not commented for awhile so I wondered if his silence was an indication he was disappointed in your position on FLR.
I think she is amazing. I am at a complete loss as to why I would be disappointed in her position.
This isn’t something that ever interested me before and frankly only interests me because she makes it so alive and exciting.
I don’t write here because I talk to her in person about what she writes.
Everyone has fantasies that they *feel* they would like to have realized. This is normal. Happy people sort out the probable from the improbable and aim for the former, and in thus being practical arrive at many rewarding destinations. It is those who aim for unrealistic goals who discover disappointment. Where interaction between two people is concerned there is really only one way to be realistic, and that is to understand the other person’s wants as well as one’s own.
Three cheers for this most excellent of articles!
Arafin
This is excellent. If I had only two recommendations to give submissive men it would be “don’t be selfish” and “don’t be pushy”. When people are pushed too far outside their comfort zone they often withdraw, leaving them to feel a failure.
Anyone attempting something new needs confidence which is something that stems from positive reinforcement and positive results.