If I thought you would not think I was insane I would be down on one knee right now proposing to you. You are funny, sexy, bright, articulate, creative, and genuine. I have never known a woman like you. I have watched you for years trying to see if I could see something that woud show me you were not “real”. If anything my respect for you grows.

On one knee,
Christopher

My job requires me to make decisions *constantly*. Most of those decisions are small. Some are trivial. But some are a big deal. Some have reaching impact throughout my company and (due to what I do and who I do it for) could lead not only to losing significant customers but could lead to loss of life. To then come home and be forced to remain in that brain mode would leave me worn out. I’d burn out rapidly.

I need a break from every moment being filled with decision making.

And so, it’s my expectation that anyone else would feel the same way. That any other person would want a break from that stress. It’s completely natural that someone would want a certain percentage of their time NOT making decisions.

I did so enjoy the posts from the trolls here though. My father used to quote Abraham Lincoln:

It is better to remain silent and be thought a fool than to open one’s mouth and remove all doubt.

This is good advice that the trolls may want to consider.

Of course you think a lot about sex. Most adolescent boys your age do. While you may not understand all that is happening to your body, please be assured that these feelings are very natural and healthy. I think this blog offers a safe, non judgmental way to explore these newfound emotions.

There are also many valuable resources to help you through this exciting yet awkward time. Several filmstrips come to mind including “Hair Down There!” and “Why It Feels Funny When I Climb The Rope In Gym Class”. They’re both educational and entertaining and probably available at your local library.

One last thought. I know it may be fun to pretend to be other people when searching sexy sites on the net. Particularly during your special “alone” time, but please be careful. Things and people are not always what they seem on the net.

Best of luck!

Arafin

Only those with the confidence and strength to reveal themselves as you have can expect me to drop to a knee before them. Those who simply stereotype themselves to fit other’s desires could only hope to be the domme you can be… when you want to be. And isn’t what you want what it’s all about?

j

Mistress Lisa, I’m glad that you feel in control and sexy all the time. I’m just not exactly sure what you are in control OF. It can’t be your manners, can it? Sexy all the time? Sounds suspiciously like an unfulfilled nymphomaniac to me.

Arafin

Many men who want to play D/S expect 24/7 sexual play except when they are busy with other stuff that gets in the way. That is selfish and unrealistic, just as a woman expecting 24/7 servitude from a man.

It is all right to just hang out from time to time, enjoy life as regular folks, and then get back to serious D/S when in the mood again. Anything else is unrealistic.

We are just humans in the end,
women, men, children and in-between.
All the rest is imagination.
If sex is better as a slave
or as the Lord or Lady who commands
and defines every sensation,
then who should care if no one objects.
Submission to a spiked heel
or a dominatrix in a corset
is sweet if that is one’s perfect construct.
But when the play is over,
we are the same. If the part never ends,
then we are not human, we are
something else that is unchanging
and terrible in its aspect.
Let us push each other’s buttons,
over and over
no matter what they do.
It only matters that you love me
and I love you.

Yes men feel this way too or at least this man does. Since I have been ill I have felt this way often.

I believe one of the most important things you said in all of this is that it takes working together with someone who cares and talking to them about it. Pretending it isn’t happening doesn’t solve anything and it may make the other person think things that aren’t true. If you do not feel sexy or want sex your partner can believe it is something that he is doing wrong and that he is the one who isn’t sexy.

Talk and work together. They help every relationship even the non-romantic ones.