In response to my post, “Orgasm Control: Can Men Be Trusted Not to Masturbate?” mikecb remarked:
As someone DEEPLY into the chastity fetish, I can say that for me the thrill of chastity play is equal parts denial, and bondage. I’ve done self-imposed stints of chastity that lasted for months without a device. I honestly think that if I was in a D/s situation with my wife, I could use the honor system. Still, that wouldn’t “scratch the itch” for me as much as actually wearing the device.
I completely understand the desire some have for wearing a device. If using one long term appealed to my partner, then it would be more attractive to me – not because I’m allowing him to top from the bottom, but because I enjoy controlling his pleasure. Seeing him excited about this – or anything else – would usually change how I view it. While I may opt not to do it, it would interesting for both of us to know I have it in my arsenal of things I might try :)
When it comes to having someone in long term chastity, I do have some health concerns. According to Dr. Arthur Goldstein, a Urologist who responds to questions on AllExperts.com, there are some things to consider.
From a strictly medical standpoint, it is healthy to periodically empty the prostate gland. The frequency depends on the age of the patient and how often they get aroused. This is usually determined by trial and error. For most younger men, this is in the 2-4 times a week range. With aging, the frequency lessens. I can tell you that emptying via prostatic massage is an uncomfortable technique, cetainly devoid of any pleasure or orgasm and not nearly efficient as natural ejaculation. – This is an excerpt. Original question and complete response located here.
When locking someone up for extended periods of time, I would keep the Doctor’s remarks in mind. Based on his comments, it seems that prostate milking may be in order if the chastity lasted for longer than a few weeks. (Lady Lubyanka. after researching the hows and whys, has written an extensive explanation on how to milk the prostate.)
mikecb went on to say:
Having to deal with things like sitting in the mens room EVERY time.. hiding myself in the locker room at the gym.. all these things enhance both the bondage feeling, and also the eroticism of it. If my Wife was actually INTERESTED in it, it would also emphasize the D/s aspects to me as well. Knowing that I was risking humiliation and detection to please her is a turn-on.
That absolutely works for me, too :) I could enjoy doing this on a short term basis even if it wasn’t particularly his thing.
mikecb concluded by adding:
So, if chastity play is something for mutual satisfaction, I’d suggest that some of us subs get a great deal of joy not only from surrendering control of our orgasms, but also from spicy eroticism involved in the day to day issues of wearing the device as we live our otherwise vanilla lives.
Thanks Mike. I appreciate comments that allow me to better understand how some men think since I don’t look at things the same way :)
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See my website for further reading regarding health concerns associated with male chastity
NOTE: Any information offered here should not be considered expert advice. I am not responsible for advice given by the authors of external links.
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My boyfriend wants me to use one of these but I do not know anything about them.
Do you know if these hurt either when flaccid or erect? Do they prevent erection? What is the best kind to order?
Is there a resource for this written by someone you know really uses one?
Great site. Thanks.
Mike,
Was it satisfying to embark upon those self-imposed chastity stints? Was it difficult?
Christopher
Lady Julia,
I like your link on the comments of Dr. Arthur Goldstein. You have mentioned him before and I gladly shared his opinions with my Lady. She does like to keep me healthy ;-).
Will
P.S. The device in your picture seems like too much. I think a red ribbon should be enough ;-)
Jade, I am sure some of the fellas that visit here can answer your questions. My experience with this is limited, however I do know from teasing someone when he was wearing a chastity device that there was pain involved when he had an erection.
My suggestion would be to pop over to Tom Allen’s website. He is practical and very knowledgeable on the subject.
Will, I’m pretty partial to that red ribbon myself :)
@jode: There are a lot of sites which are dedicated specifically to the wearing of chastity devices. I’d suggest checking them out. I visit “Chastity Mansion” all the time. There are a LOT of Femme male CB wearers there, but there are a few of us who like to wear pants! ;-p
@Christopher: I’ve blogged about my self-imposed stints on Chastity Mansion, if you’d like to see the details.
@Lady Julia: *blush* Shuck’s ma’am. I didn’t expect to be the subject of a whole blog! lol