Comments on: Goodbye Again and Again

By: Lady Julia

Lady Julia — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 18:36:25 +0000

Thank you, Jason. You’re very sweet. Don’t worry, things are ok now, it is just sad sometimes to think about.

By: JSL

JSL — Sat, 30 Jan 2010 06:09:38 +0000

I followed the link from your post of January 28th, 2010 and read this story for the first time. It broke my heart reading it. I am very sorry this happened. It is always hard to have some one you think you are over suddenly pop back into your life. I know this was a while ago but it made me wish I could give you a big hug. I hate to hear of anyone hurting like that. Especially some one who has been as kind to me as you have been.
Take care.
Jason

By: James P

James P — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 22:19:02 +0000

The emotion and truly heartfelt feelings can be felt through out, you are an incredibly caring and sensitive person, I would not begin to offer advice, I only want you to know you are a very dear and kind person who has been through a lot. You deserve happiness and I am sure I am only one of many praying for you to find it.

God bless you.

James P

By: ladyjulia

ladyjulia — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 21:16:52 +0000

Mike, I do carry pepper spray. I am also fortunate to live in a community that has a lot of cohesiveness. People are nosy and they are not afraid to butt in when they think they need to :) If anyone started something with me, as long as I was not alone I think someone would at least try to help. I don’t go places alone at night if it can be at all avoided. As much as I can I try to take reasonable steps to protect myself.

For what it is worth, I don’t think he would hurt me physically as he never showed any sign of anything like that the entire time we were together. I think he’s just having difficult letting go of what we had.

By: Mike

Mike — Fri, 19 Jun 2009 00:05:24 +0000

Please be careful. We all worry about somebody hurting you. Do you carry pepper spray or something that could help protect you?

Mike

By: ladyjulia

ladyjulia — Thu, 18 Jun 2009 01:59:28 +0000

Rob: Do you want to forget about this guy ever existed or do you want to enjoy the time you did have together?

No, I do not want to forget he existed – I loved him a great deal so even if I wanted to, I don’t think that would be possible. I can still think back on all we had and have good thoughts, but his actions do make me question how real his love was if he could allow me to think him dead all those years. I am trying to be reasonable, though. Who knows what would go through our minds or what actions we would take if we were facing cancer and likely death. Most people wouldn’t drastically hurt those that love them, but it isn’t impossible to understand how some can.

Larry: I hope your post helps your heart mend.

Thank you. I’ve had a couple of people ask me why I would share this story via my blog. I suppose it is difficult to understand, but it is somewhat cathartic for me to share things here. I wasn’t looking for sympathy as I could certainly garner enough of that in private. It did help to write it all out and then pressing publish seem to add a “there – that’s done!” sort of feeling. I still hurt, but I felt some better after I posted.

Olivia: I am so sorry your friend lost her life. What a horrible thing to happen.

One never knows, even with people who say they love us. I had a friend who was shot dead in her driveway by her husband while her small children looked on. None of her friends ever suspected him capable of anything that wasn’t sweet, much less something like that.

Thank you everyone. I’ll be careful.

By: Olivia

Olivia — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 14:20:15 +0000

I hope you will be careful. A friend of mine had a man in her life who wouldn’t take no for an answer and she is dead. Anyone with any level of empathy would know what he is doing to you but he is so self-absorbed that he doesn’t care. Run before it is too late.

By: Pete Mitchell

Pete Mitchell — Wed, 17 Jun 2009 03:13:09 +0000

We talked about this individual once… I felt such emotion in your voice then. And now, in your writing. When I read that he called, my heart jumped for you… as I continued to read, I felt and undestood the reasons for your pain.

I hope I’m not being too presumptuous when I say there are so many of us who want you to find happiness… you may find yourself crying in a darkened room, but you are not alone by any stretch of the imagination. I know if I could pick anywhere to be right now, it would be in a darkened room, comforting a friend.

It gets said a lot… but as always, if there is ANYTHING I can do, you know you only have to ask.

By: Rob Open

Rob Open — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 22:38:44 +0000

Lady Julia,
I wish you happiness and bliss. The only way to avoid pain is to be an island and wall yourself off. I wish I could ease your pain somehow. It would be a shame if you shed one tear over this situation.

By: Will

Will — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 21:38:25 +0000

As I begin to read today’s post, I felt sadness. When I read about the breakup, I felt pain and hurt. When you wrote that he was in your town, I felt fear.

I know you can take care of yourself and have support systems around you. It’s just that I have had to help a lady in the past when a man didn’t want to take “No” for an answer.

Take Care,

Will