I thought you might enjoy knowing I’ve added a few more stories to Femdom Fantasies. I am so very pleased there are a few people willing to contribute to this site as I think it has a lot of potential. If you would like to submit a story for publication, please email me.
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I’ve just discovered an interesting Wordpress feature. Users have the option to write posts at any time and then schedule them to be published whenever they desire. This would prove useful if I am going to be away from the computer for several days and wish to keep the flow going :) As I am going to the mountains at the end of next week I will test it to see how well it works.
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Yesterday I went out for a few hours with Richard. He and I have become really good friends and I very much enjoy hanging out with him. He’s funny, intelligent, and he doesn’t let me push him around (well, not too often anyway ;)
We went to dinner and had a nice long talk about Femdom and kink. I haven’t mentioned it here yet, but a couple of weeks ago I told him all about the Domme thing. He wasn’t really shocked, but I think like David it took him by surprise because he had a preconceived notion of what being a Domme means. I enjoy talking with he and David about all things Femdom because they ask intelligent questions and they make me think about the whys and hows. Sometimes I can’t answer their questions at the moment they ask and that impresses me. I like it when someone is intelligent enough and thoughtful enough to make me say, “I don’t know – I’ll have to think about it and tell you later.”
On the way home we were waiting in traffic at a very busy intersection when an accident occurred. Of course being a nurse and possibly the only healthcare professional on the scene, I jumped out of the car, and while Richard pulled out of the way of traffic I approached the damaged vehicles. There were three people inside the most severely damaged car. The two in the front were injured but able to exit the vehicle. The one in the back appeared to have sustained more serious injuries. I couldn’t get inside the vehicle on the driver’s side because the door wouldn’t open, so I approached the passenger’s side door.
Standing blocking the door was a man taking photos. I cannot imagine why anyone would think this was ok, but that wasn’t the time to even consider the why of the situation. I identified myself as a nurse and asked him to move.
He ignored me.
I tapped him on the shoulder and again asked him to move, explaining I was a nurse and I needed to get inside the vehicle to check on the person inside.
When he turned I realized how tall and big he was, but by that point I didn’t care. He stared down at me, still refusing to move – an act that completely infuriated me. In a quite loud and angry voice I warned him, “Get out of my way NOW or I will deck you!”
There was some nervous laughter in the crowd. Some I am sure found it somewhat amusing that a woman would be threatening to deck a man who was a foot taller and at least 100 pounds heavier, but frankly I didn’t care. Some I am sure were nervous about how the situation was going to play out.
After a few seconds of glaring at me he moved and I was able to get inside the vehicle to do my checks. Fortunately the injuries weren’t as severe as I anticipated and the police and EMTs arrived right after.
I cannot imagine why this man would behave the way he did, but even more than that I cannot understand why no one at all stepped forward to help me stand up to him. Richard arrived right as the man was leaving or I am certain he would have helped me.
Several people did speak up and inform the police about the insane photographer, but by the time the police were in a position to deal with him, he had slithered away.
On the way home Richard asked what I would have done had the man not moved. No one ever really knows for sure what they “would have done”, but I was so concerned about the injured and so angry at this man that I honestly believe I would have decked him. I have never hit anyone in my life (outside of sexual play), but I was not about to stand there and let that person possibly put someone’s life at risk.
So I guess the Evil Cowgirl did put in an appearance but this time, she was evil evil instead of fun evil. I’m not proud that in the heat of that moment I couldn’t think of any other option to make that man move, but I didn’t have time to search for more tactful options.
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It has always amazed me how humans can look right at other humans in trouble and do nothing. I have seen it mostly in cities but sometimes in rural settings, too. We all have the ability to shut out scary things as part of our vestigial “fight-or-flight” mechanism, the same mechanism that allows us to be hypnotized. We are not to blame for having this ability, but when we let ourselves slip into gawker mode instead of lending a hand to someone in dire need, I think we lower ourselves collectively as a species. Professional and volunteer public service people are trained to help the injured. We should all have this instinct.
You did nothing wrong by threatening to wallop that goofball with the camera, Lady Julia, and considering the circumstances and the nature of the emergency, I think you showed great instant judgement. An off duty cop could have brought the law into play to make him move. An off duty paramedic or fireman would have taken charge and done the same. You are a nurse and did what was logical by trying to talk him out of the way, and then was what correctly instinctive by saying you’d deck him. You were right, he was wrong, that’s it.
I can’t help being curious why that fool was taking pictures in the first place. I hope his photos turn out as underdeveloped as he is.
Arafin
There is a special place in the nether regions for dolts like that. I am surprised no one assisted you.
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I admire your courage in standing up to this lout. I hope he is in an accident someday and you are the only person on the scene.
Unfortunately your training would kick in and you would probably help him.
Too bad.
The evil cowgirl is always there. She emerges at just the right times.
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i don’t think that cowgirl appearance was “evil evil”, i reckon it was definitely “good evil”. Glad everyone was ok – but they might not have been. You did the right thing.
It’s sick the way people are so obsessed with this, though I have to say I may be in on this myself since I can write about some pretty terrible things, a couple of which are based of off real events. But still there is something that disgusts me about this entire purpose.
Also, I’d like to disagree with your idea of the situation in regards to the evil cowgirl. At this point I would say you were in the right. I’m sorry, but I can be a real pain about semantics.
Most definitely not “evil evil”.
Thank you all. I’ve thought about the situation quite a bit and the only other thing I can think of to have done was to threaten to have the men in the crowd “move” him. Probably would have been safer for me but either way he moved and I suppose that’s good enough.
I agree that you getting quickly to the injured person inside that car was more important than the feelings of the person taking photographs. I also think (and from what you said in your post I think you might agree with me) there were other ways you could have handled the situation which might have left you feeling better about it, whilst still achieving your objective.
For example, it’s possible that saying something in a super firm tone of voice like: “If the person inside that car needs medical attention and doesn’t get it, you will be responsible.” might have got you the same result. It also might not. We’ll never know. I know that it was important to you that you did everything you possibly could to ensure that the person was attended to as fast as possible. You did achieve your objective, but you might have got hurt yourself. Saying what I suggested might have resulted in you getting to the person slower, but I feel that approach carried a much lesser risk of you yourself getting injured. I think we all know that all rescue personnel have an obligation to ensure their own safety first before that of anybody needing their attention.
Also, I think you know that whilst you were responsible for doing everything you could to get to that person as quickly as possible, you are only responsible for yourself and nobody else. If you’d said the thing I suggested and he still didn’t move, I think that getting help was the next step. Your friend Richard was on his way, and if you’d asked the onlookers explicitly for help, chances are somebody would have helped you.
The injured person certainly was a priority, but you were and always are your first priority. So it might be a good idea to prioritise your own safety by recognising your limitations regarding other people, such as that photographer. I know stuff happens quickly in those situations, and I also know that it’s possible through practice to hone your instinctive responses so that they’re more like you’d prefer them to be.
If I’d been in that car and needed medical attention, I’d probably have wanted you to deck that guy if it had been necessary. I probably would also have hoped that such a thing wasn’t necessary. I also would rather you helped me a little bit later if that meant that you helped me instead of lying bleeding on the ground if that guy had decked you back.
So whilst I disagree that you were evil, I do think you could have handled the situation more safely. I hope that helped. :)
I did recognize that I didn’t watch out for my safety as well as I should have. I let my emotions get in the way (he made me angry) and that’s never a good thing when dealing with a crisis.
I’m not sure any other verbal intervention would have been effective since I’d already told him twice I was a nurse and asked him to move. It’s difficult to say since I was dealing with someone who had to be told to move in the first place. Reasoning with an unreasonable person seldom goes as smoothly as we would wish or as predictably.
Thanks for your comments. As always you offer well-reasoned food for thought.
It’s easy to say what we would do when none of us were in this situation. In my opinion you were brave and you took charge when someone needed to and no one else did. These are two things that are a pattern for you and something I admire you for.
If he would have been daunted by the threat of being responsible for someone’s death or further injury, he would have been fearful to strike you in front of all those people. What you needed to do was get his attention and you did that.
Please do look after yourself. You are too precious to so many to let anything happen to you.
Dear Lady,
I think that you were running on high-octane adrenaline, and could have decked the man. I don’t promote the idea, because you could get hurt, but he was obviously asking for it, and you were ready. But please, do not make a habit of this. If or when it works may be an exception. Big men have been to know to punch out even slightly smaller men. My nose is still sore. Please let the police do your work when it comes to jerks like this.