Comments on: Male Submission and Privacy

By: susans' pet

susans' pet — Mon, 15 Jun 2009 23:47:03 +0000

This woman has a right to think or expect anything she wants. A man who wants to become her subject would have to deal with all that.

I would not. I have my reasons to remain private, and being known to be submissive to a woman is not it. I take pride in that aspect, but also know that there are narrow minds that would do me harm because of it.

By: Arafin

Arafin — Thu, 04 Jun 2009 00:41:14 +0000

If the Domme in question here simply has the goal of either causing her sub a little playful embarrassment or teaching him what it is like to be viewed as a sex object, then there are more responsible ways to do it. The web is a potentially very dangerous place. Just because many women have their pictures displayed online in ways that come back to haunt them does not mean the same should be done to men, … or to more women ……. to anyone. Two wrongs don’t make a right.

I don’t know enough about this situation to comment in more depth, but I will say this, if the Domme is serious about SSC, then she should be applying it to activities which extend beyond the confines of the bedroom.

Arafin

By: Steve

Steve — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 17:54:36 +0000

If she is entitled to out him with a picture on the web then what’s next?

Is his devotion to her incomplete if he doesn’t turn over complete financial control?
Should he be required to dress in panties for the picture?
Should she be allowed a lover? Must he orally arouse her lover to show his devotion?

Sorry, but her requiring the posting of a picture is silly.

By: GreyOwl

GreyOwl — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 17:50:40 +0000

Lady Julia, I also agree your viewpoint…

Another consideration is the community or political aspect of the person involved… what I do within my home with my lovely lady may be completely different than my persona in public.

By: Michael

Michael — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 15:35:59 +0000

This is foolish. More and more experts advise guarding against revealing too much information online. Employers check facebook, myspace, etc. to glean information about potential employees.

I would never advise a woman to put her photo on a BDSM site. There are so many kink hungry characters that she could at best be really annoyed by their desperation.

By: Free Thinking Writer

Free Thinking Writer — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 14:08:35 +0000

I agree with you, Lady Julia. I have to wonder how well thought-out the other woman’s comments really were. Unfortunately, once opinions like that are stated, it can be difficult for someone to see the error and retract. Hopefully she won’t do something that causes harm to someone’s livelihood or family relationships.

By: mikecb

mikecb — Wed, 03 Jun 2009 12:00:22 +0000

I think D/s is not dissimilar from gay/straight sexual preference. Some people are out, and some people are not. “Coming out” is difficult, and has a lot of social implications that have to we weighed and balanced.

I think those that are “out” in the gay community wish more people would come out, because it makes it easier and easier for others, and also helps increase social acceptance. I agree with that, so by extension, I can imagine that if enough people came out about D/s and Femdom relationships, that eventually they would become more socially acceptable, too.

That said, I still think it’s the person’s own choice. Besides, when “kinky” turns commonplace, what fun would it be?!? ;-p