Comments on: Femdom or Female Led Relationships: Imagine

By: Ron

Ron — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 09:46:59 +0000

Brilliant piece of writing. You could not have put your point over better.

Anyone who has had such a communication for real with their wives will know how sensitive and delicate those kinds of revelations can be.

Thank you.

By: Lady Julia

Lady Julia — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 03:45:57 +0000

Mrs. G,

Do you want to continue pursuing a wife led relationship? If so, what do *you* want from it? What would have to change to help you enjoy it more?

Perhaps writing these things down would help you take a fresh look at it and would also help you explain your feelings to him?

Lady Julia

By: MrsG

MrsG — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 03:35:56 +0000

Well he is the passive/aggressive king but I try to put things plainly if not sometimes harsh. It took a long time for him to get me where we are now…(which isnt very but considering I was like hell no go pay somebody in the beginning I feel like Im making good strides.) But we go in the same circle. It ends with him trying to reassure me Im doing fine and we take a “breather” and then a few weeks or so later him adding or changing his wishlist or “adjusting/ignoring my rules and me needing to do more to get and keep him in the right space. This is some exhausting shit. Im trying to find some place in this that is pleasurable for me and puts ME in the right space. Its hard when I feel like I will never be comfortable or able to get where he needs to be.

I appreciate you replying.

By: Lady Julia

Lady Julia — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 02:35:40 +0000

Mrs. G,

Have you spoken to him and told him honestly how you feel? If not, then perhaps that would be the best place to start? It’s very possible he doesn’t realize how he is coming across to you.

Lady Julia

By: MrsG

MrsG — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 01:43:06 +0000

So what do you do?!?!? My DH has done this more or less and Im tired and mad and disappointed. I feel like we are dick-led instead of wife-led. Is he really submissive when it really does seem to be all about him Or do I just suck at this and need to send him to a professional? I mean Im aware I personally am not very competent but Im trying to learn but Im starting to really resent the hell out of it.

Any advice please.

By: Free Thinking Writer

Free Thinking Writer — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 21:28:31 +0000

UD1 and UD2 clearly missed the entire point. The post wasn’t about what submissive men feel. It’s simply asking them to consider what their wives feel.

By: Mike

Mike — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 18:31:48 +0000

Thanks for posting the article. I think your advice applies to a lot of areas besides submission. One should always consider other peoples feelings when broaching this subject or others.

Mike

By: hypno junkie

hypno junkie — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 16:49:19 +0000

I can’t help thinking when reading these negative comments in Ladia Julia’s Blog that they are really the comments of a jealous domme.

Utterly disguted writes: “You know nothing about what submissive men feel or what they need. NOTHING. (this strongly suggests to me that you are female)

And you do? Remember not all men are the same. We are not robots. Lady Julia has quite a strong following, that speaks for itself, she offers her mp3’s for free, unlike the majority of Hypnodommes who do mp3’s who have absolutely no interest in the men who buy there products, they just want to make lots of money. She is interested in getting to know what the members of her yahoo group think. If you don’t like what you hear on this blog I would second what Arafin said, don’t read the blog.

By: Steve

Steve — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 16:00:17 +0000

I understand your post. But I often wonder: How many marriages are already wife-led before the husband approaches his “vanilla” wife and asks her to take charge?

In my situation, we were already wife led, we just hadn’t acknowledged it.

By: mikecb

mikecb — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 11:42:11 +0000

I’ve been more or less in exactly this situation. Though I believe I broached the subject more carefully than Lady Julia’s scenario, the result was basically the same.

Sometimes I wonder if it’s even POSSIBLE to raise such topics “well”, when the two people involved have such different interests and needs. It’s like trying to describe a rainbow to someone blind since birth.

In my case, I felt it was healthier to get it out there, rather than just keep this major sexual incompatibility bottled up.

mikecb