Comments on: Topping, Attention, and a Nice Tush Picture

By: L. Marie

L. Marie — Wed, 20 Oct 2010 09:29:57 +0000

Hm, somehow my last comment disappeared… I don’t knwo what’s happened. Next try:

@ Lady Julia:
I wholeheartly agree with you. It’s really sad that there are still Dommes out there who confuse caring for the partner with weakness, who see D/s as their personal ego-trip and who take FemDom as an excuse to celebrate their own megalomania and egocentrism. Sometimes I wonder if there were certain unpleasant experiences that lead them to this view…
Sure, it’s easier for some people to concentrate on their own egoism, than to make the efford to maintain a mutual satisfying relationship. “It’s all about me, not about you” is less complicated. However the easier way is not always the best way if you are really interested in a healthy relationship.
Nice to see you fit more in the category of a Domme who has the interest of BOTH in mind. This does not diminish you as a leader – it shows your confidence in your own dominance and is a testament that you are a quality Domme, D/s-partner and human being.

@ Mistress of the Night:
Not Lady Julia ist the one who is confused and ill-informed, my dear… *g* And she certainly does not need your help in this matter. It may not be to your liking, but there are no “holy rules” of dos and don’ts in the world of female domination – and it’s certainly not up to you to dictate other Dommes how they should treat their submissives.
If you are happy with your style of domination and if you are able to keep your submissives, go on. Personally I prefer Lady Julias approach. It sounds less contrived, more responsible and closer to reality than what you are suggesting…

By: L. Marie

L. Marie — Fri, 08 Oct 2010 10:11:01 +0000

By: Lady Julia

Lady Julia — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 17:32:17 +0000

Thank you Manet. You’re very sweet.

In spite of what some One True Wayers seem to think, kindness and caring does not equate to weakness. I’m not afraid to be myself and I don’t apologize to anyone for doing so.

By: Manet

Manet — Tue, 23 Feb 2010 14:00:28 +0000

>>Her pet:
>>Your style of “dominance” is more like submission. The way you explain it you are there to serve the wants of your sub and he’s the one in control.

>Lady Julia:
>Because I care about the needs of my partner? I thought that just meant I had a heart. Thanks for jerking me out of my own private fantasyland….

Dear Lady Julia

You have a heart. A big heart made of diamonds and gold that shines like a sun through anything you do and say warming us all with its gentleness and your wisdom.

–Manet

By: Richard

Richard — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 21:00:12 +0000

Mistress of the Night said, “Julia my intent was to help you dear. You appear sincere even though you are ill-informed. My boys are obedient and well-trained but they were not this way when they came to me. Men require structure and precise direction.”

Bullshit. Your intent is to try to make yourself look superior when compared to the other Dommes who comment here and especially Lady Julia. You look ridiculous trying to belittle any of them and especially when you try to belittle someone as respected as Lady Julia.

By: Richard

Richard — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 20:39:16 +0000

Lady Julia, I agree with Rex that you have done an excellent job for years now in explaining female led relationships in a way that is realistic yet sexy and exciting. Your whole “If I Were a Vanilla Woman” series was simple, honest, and compelling.

You have definitely earned your place as a leader in the Femdom world.

By: Lubyanka

Lubyanka — Sun, 21 Feb 2010 17:43:45 +0000

rex wrote: "I thank you again Lady Julia for so artfully expressing your profound understanding of the whole wife lead dynamic. I have indeed struggled with the mistaken notion that she must be firmly established as some kind of uberdomme to achieve long term success. That simply doesn’t exist no matter what the OTW’ers would like us to believe." In your nicely put thanks directed to Lady Julia, you referenced a suggestion that you may be limiting your ideas of success to unrealistic concepts of "the dominatrix". Whilst I heartily agree that Lady Julia has bucketloads of worthwhile ideas to share and merits every expressed appreciation she receives, on this particular occasion I wanted to point out that the helpful suggestion you referenced was actually made by me.

By: Mistress of the Night

Mistress of the Night — Sat, 20 Feb 2010 00:58:18 +0000

I said “So few people care about what others think but it is an admirable quality and one I share.”

I meant to write “So few people don’t care”.

By: rex

rex — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 23:26:18 +0000

I have really enjoyed the discussion. I thank you again Lady Julia for so artfully expressing your profound understanding of the whole wife lead dynamic. I have indeed struggled with the mistaken notion that she must be firmly established as some kind of uberdomme to achieve long term success. That simply doesn’t exist no matter what the OTW’ers would like us to believe. We will have our ups and downs but I hope we will both continue to inspire each other to stay the course. Sharon spent some considerable time last night reading your blog and comments and I know she is drawing strength from them. She is the most confident I have ever seen her and it makes me melt before her.

By: Mistress of the Night

Mistress of the Night — Fri, 19 Feb 2010 23:25:36 +0000

Lubyanka thank you for your sincere response. It is easy to see why you are so beloved in your part of the world! Kvetch is a lucky man.

By the way, I commend your bravery when selecting your monikers. Since Kvetch means “constant complainer” and Lubyanka is the name for the headquarters of the KGB and a prison in Moscow most people would be concerned others might wonder at how well-fitting your choices are. So few people care about what others think but it is an admirable quality and one I share.

Julia my intent was to help you dear. You appear sincere even though you are ill-informed. My boys are obedient and well-trained but they were not this way when they came to me. Men require structure and precise direction.