You have a way with words and ideas. I could have said that, but I always back off in order to avoid verbal confrontation with a female no matter what the words involved are. I did have to take physical action from time to time in my days in law enforcement, but never with “ladies”, just some broads who acted from, you know, “down there” instead of from their brains.

I have read your comment and plan on responding to your question via a post. Thank you for your kind words and your interest :)

Lady Julia

It seems you are an advocate of blindly doling out punishment, but not so keen about receiving what you deserve, honest criticism.

In any case, your behavior here has been anything but professional.

I know that I am late in responding. Please hear me anyway since I am responding to our writing.

One can theorize about everything (like I do), but one can give authoritative answers only from one’s own education or experience. You have the experience and/or education, so you are accepted by most of us as a person of stature. It is also gracious of you to acknowledge your limitations, “I’ll respond, but understand I’m not trying to speak for anyone else.”

My dear lady, most of us out here are not that astute. We talk as if we were speaking for everybody, yet we know little. We speak of what we think is right. But when challenged to back it up, we are at a loss.

I understand what you say, and what you mean here, “If he said, ‘I want you to dominate me” and then went on to tell me how… well, I would hardly be the one in charge, would I? ‘ Indeed, you would not be in charge.

The difficulty with the subject of Female Led Relationship is that generally it is not started with what a female wants. It is a fantasy of a male who wants it fulfilled. That means, the female will have to do what the male wants. Damn! That is just not right. If the female does what the male wants, the whole thing of FLR is nonsense. So we come around to define what the male and the female want, and take it from there.

Perhaps you could give us the pleasure by enlightening us.

It’s what he wants. If she won’t do this then he would be better off seeing a Pro Domme.

So, any time a man is with a woman who won’t do exactly what he wants in bed, he would be better off seeing a professional?

Also, not all men, even all submissive men, want exactly the same thing.

Right now I’m involved in the Pampered Chef program, but with the economy the way it is, I’m not sure that will be viable in 2009.

Following on from that, I believe that pro doms do not normally acquire special skills and insights relating to d/s partnerships as an integral part of  their  work.

Expertly scening is one thing, expertly relationshiping is another.

I would also like to observe that by definition, being a pro dom does not a “serious” method make, just as being a lifestyle dominant does not a “playtime” method make.

In other words, I believe that the merit of a service is most usually measured using criteria  other  than whether anybody is charging for it.