Comments on: Simple Dominance: Orgasm Control, Tease and Denial

By: Lady Julia

Lady Julia — Mon, 15 Dec 2008 22:08:47 +0000

David, I wonder how many people read the comments as well. Still – it makes things feel complete to respond. Unfortunately I’m always behind and sometimes it’s 2-3 days later.

Thank you for the sweet things you say.

By: David

David — Sun, 14 Dec 2008 16:40:24 +0000

You say many interesting and insightful things here and so do many others. I wonder how many people find time to read the comments?

I am amazed by your creativity and cannot imagine anyone ever boring with the things you do.

By: Lady Julia

Lady Julia — Fri, 12 Dec 2008 00:04:45 +0000

Willie, you make me smile. I’m really glad you enjoy reading my thoughts.

Duncan, thank you so much.

Thomas, had to smile at what you wrote. It reminds of a time when I teased a fella absolutely unmercifully for a week without letting him release or even touch. By the second day I DEFINITELY had his attention. By the fourth day I could have had anything I wanted. By the seventh day… ;)

JDW asked, “Do you do things like texts and emails often or would that decrease the effectiveness if it were not a novelty? Do you do any type of long term orgasm control?”

I think when you’re dealing with intelligent, creative people, the key to everything is variety. I get bored easily so I’m assuming he will too. I much prefer to change things up. It’s difficult sometimes when life things get in the way, but it’s much more enjoyable to keep surprising him.

With regard to long term chastity, how do you define long term? I have one fella on a program where he must meet certain goals before he can release. I think he just went through his longest period and it was 20 days.

You have to keep in mind too that (as an example) 30 days with no teasing is NOTHING compared to say 10 days with teasing. At least that’s the impression I’ve had from observing ;)

By: thomas_the_tame

thomas_the_tame — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 04:41:58 +0000

Orgasm control, tease and denial is not only a very exciting way to dominate us, but it also hits us where we live, so to speak. Since we first discovered our dicks, we’ve had 24/7 access, and used them to exhaustion. Having a dominant woman simply suggest that we should withhold pleasure for her pleasure is far more devastating (in a good way) than I think anyone guesses

If you ever have a problem with your sub working all his magic, charming you, seducing you, being extra generous and kind to you, then returning to a less attentive demeanor once he’s gotten what he was after, this kind of thing fixes it.

The technique you’re discussing here keeps us attuned to your needs, attentive to your every movement, the rustle of your clothing, the smell of your perfume, shampoo or natural scent, and can bring us back to a feeling of total submission in seconds with just such simple little suggestions (e.g. text messages, phone conversations, etc.). In short, it makes us good little boys for so long as you desire.

By: Duncan

Duncan — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 03:46:19 +0000

You are so imaginative and so sexy!

By: jdw

jdw — Thu, 11 Dec 2008 03:14:20 +0000

You do make dominance look very simple. I suspect this is only because you are very, very good at it.

Do you do things like texts and emails often or would that decrease the effectiveness if it were not a novelty?

Do you do any type of long term orgasm control?

By: willie owen

willie owen — Wed, 10 Dec 2008 23:32:52 +0000

Lady Julia,
In all kinds of powerful ways, you electrify, shock and rock me,
all the while seducing and affecting me with chills down the spine,
and up again, and at the same time, you bring out a boyish
innocence from some deep, deep, dark caverns inside my soul.
How you do so, I may never discover.
It’s just damn awesome, you know.
Thanks there be to the heavens!
Respectfully,
willie