*looks around to find women like that*

Hmm. I’m not finding any.

Just a few quick thoughts
-1) In the example you wrote out so well…No absolutely I would not deny her anything and I would cherish giving her everything.
Before I get into the other points-let me totally agree that virtually all men, myself included feel very inadequate at how to properly WOO as you say a woman especially a very beautiful and desirable woman. that said her is my 2 cents worth.
2) Their is 2 kinds of Wooing- one is very early on trying to get a relationship started,
to get her to notice you. To me this is the hardest becuase you probably do not know her very well.
3) the other kind of wooing is continuing to bring life to the Dance of a more established relationship. The key to this is a) want to do it, you are in the relationship becuase you love or atleast care the other pereson so making them happy should also bring us joy.
b) Take the time and effort to listen to what they enjoy, and then supprise them with it
be it Tickets and a trip to a Barbara Streisand concert (that she loves and knows you could care less about) or laying out her toothbrush with the toothpaste already on it, so when she gets up after you have left early for work, she has a simple reminder you care about her.

I own and operate a large card and gift store among the many things that I do, and like I said I know as men we are not good at this, but I am amazed at the men who come in to my shop to buy an gift for their wife of many years and have no clue as to what she might like or what she is interested in. Sometimes after 20 questions they might remember – ya she gardens or similar.
While I am far from good at it, Woointg to me is one of the best parts of a relationship,
bring joy/happiness especially if it is unexpected to the person you care deeply for.

You Lady Juia have such varied interests that it would not be hard to find things you might enjoy but I suspect it would be more in the delivery/presentation an unexpected delivery to you, in it two packages, one with a new pair of Wolford stockings and dinner reservations at a romantic restaurant, and in the other A Life is Good Sweatshirt and a photo of a quit spot in the mountains by a stream with an invitation to go for a picnic or camping.

then the note “Can I tempt you to get away….you decide, I only know I want to be with you”.

Both people want to be wooed, I presume. I wonder how much of the submissive side of some men is based on one simple desire: to be wooed in return for all the wooing they’ve been expected to do. Or perhaps to be wooed because they just don’t know how to do the wooing themselves.

In any case, how do you woo a woman, any woman? Well, I think I will admit to being somewhat clueless. I can tell you what I do know, but I also think what I do is inadequate.

I keep things simple. I ask her out. I’m interested in her, and I let that show. I hold doors. I learn to dance. I find things to share with her that I think may interest her.

I don’t buy her things very much, not at this stage. Maybe that’s a mistake. It would be fun to buy her a little something if we’re out together and I see something she might like — be it a single flower, a ribbon, whatever. Something small and simple. Expensive and flashy is tacky. The expense of a gift should be in keeping with the nature of the relationship. A $5 ribbon with the words, “I thought this would look great in your hair and matches your blouse” is sweet.

I personally don’t like the phone. I would *much* rather talk to someone in person. I want to see her eyes, watch her expression. And frankly, I have wonderful deep blue eyes myself, and I want her to see them. In any case, I don’t like the phone except for pure information exchange, but there are two women I very much enjoy talking to on the phone. I suspect that says more about them than it does about me (they’re both pretty outgoing people and fun to talk to). But I think when it comes to wooing, I need to get better about picking up the phone and saying, “Hi. I was just thinking about you and wanted to hear your voice.” Quite literally say that, actually. It doesn’t need to be a long call, just a little verbal touch.

So, as I said, I’m probably hopelessly inadequate in what I do, but there you have it…

David, Thomas, and Rob – thank you very much for your kind remarks.

TY for the pointers. I am always interested in how a beautiful women thinks and/or dreams/fantasizes.

Rob