I have to go out for the evening so I’ve spent the last hour getting ready. As I sat putting on the “finishing touches” – lipstick, earrings, bracelet, necklace, and watch – I started wondering. Do men even notice when a woman wears jewelry? Of course he notices if it’s gaudy – who wouldn’t? But, does he notice if I have something subtle dangling just above my cleavage? Does he notice the glitter adorning my ears?
Sometimes I think maybe women wear jewelry not for men, but for themselves and/or to impress other women. I’m pretty subtle in my tastes so I think I wear it for me, but who knows what’s buried in our subconscious mind? Ok, I admit I wear the necklace for me and for him – after all, I know he’s going to be looking in that direction ;) I do sometimes wonder if his eyes even wander high enough to see it, though.
What about you? If you’re a man, do you ever notice and appreciate a lady’s jewels? Is that sort of adornment ever sexy to you? Ladies, do you enjoy wearing jewelry and if so, why? Does your fella ever notice things like that?
(I know, I know, a very shallow post, but I am trying to get back in the swing of things – indulge me).
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Jewelry? Women wear jewelry?
Sometimes I notice but usually I don’t.
Affirmative! i always notice a woman’s adornments and jewelry. It speaks to me about a woman’s confidence and belief in her own sexiness, beauty and value in the sight of others. It’s definitely sexy to me.
Dear Lady,
I assure you that this man notices jewelry. Much of it is in the eye of the beholder, just as beauty is. But, once in a while, I notice something that can range from elegant to tasteful to gaudy, but it grabs me by my libido. It may make the difference between a casual passing-by and a wonderful get-together. In some cases jewelery will enhance beauty. In others jewelery calls attention to beauty. It is the latter that I follow. Then there is perfume when appropriately applied. Oh, my!
By the way, I have written about beauty on my blog more than once. You might be interested.
It took several years of training; but now, I notice the jewelry Mrs. Will is wearing. Sometimes I notice the jewelry another women is wearing. But the second is a much rarer event.
I hope you have a good time this evening.
Will
Accessorising!
Probably the must have fashion option of modern time!
Steve Jobs of Apple fame successfully tapped into this trend with i & nano, pods.
For me fashion accessories are the “cherry on the cake” in female sexiness.
Love it all, including the irony. For instance, ankle bracelets were a one time symbol of prostitution but what do they mean now? Men’s Health magazine in Australia, sorry can’t remember the issue, stated that complimenting a women’s necklace was lame, insincere and an indicator that one was gay?
For me, fashion accessories are nice to look at and great to see a person taking pride in their appearence.
I usually do notice what a woman is wearing in the way of jewelry. Sometimes I try to guess what it says about her and her tastes. Sometimes I find the jewelry itself particularly interesting. I think jewelry could be sexy in the right context, but most of my current interactions with women are not in that context.
Readers may not believe this, but I almost always notice a lady’s jewelry. I don’t know why this is. I am especially drawn to pins. I offer compliments whenever it seems appropriate.
Arafin
The reasons why women wear jewelry are, I think, quite various, and worthy of a longer analysis than is possible in a simple blog comment. So, I think I’ll move on to the other questions …
Since I started buying jewelry, I started noticing it, and appreciating the tasteful and high quality pieces. I would guess that men who don’t buy jewelry for anyone are fairly oblivious, particularly to the subtle stuff.
As to the other kind of noticing, I will admit to the disconcerting effects of a beautiful pendant when suspended directly above a discreet decolletage. My totem animal must be a magpie, as my eye is irresistibly drawn to light and motion, particularly bright, shiny things. Given that I try to be polite enough not to stare at a lady’s breasts (no matter how captivating), and endeavor to keep my gaze fixed firmly on her eyes during conversation, such a pendant creates serious difficulties. In spite of my best efforts, my gaze returns again and again to that spot, and I grow increasingly flustered and embarrassed. The effort required to drag my eyes back to hers before I am observed (an optimistic goal, at best), to concentrate on the conversation, and to maintain a level tone of voice, places me at a significant disadvantage to the lady as the evening progresses.
This is, I suspect, a woman’s major motivation for wearing such a piece.
Best,
Felix
I don’t always notice, but probably most of the time. Depending on what it is, it’s a small notice. If it’s particularly striking, then of course it will gain a greater share of my attention and appreciation.
I only wear jewlery he has given me. It shows his knowledge of my taste and an acceptance of a gift. Like an indulgence to allow him to pick something for me. And an appreciation on my part to wear it. ~~Dee
You might think this is interesting to read, Lady Julia. http://www.theoriginof.com/jewelry.html
I hope you had a good time and that your jewelry was appreciated.
think of it as advertising, you may not notice that you’re noticing every little thing, but it all adds up into one subliminal package
Humm, so hypothetically, if a woman remarked that her face was up here, a possible reply could be that you were just admiring her jewelry? Or that I was just
thinking how nice a necklace would be with that outfit. lol
Jewelry, now, there’s a rare subject. First, I’d like to observe that considering one’s appearance does not make a topic shallow by definition. Personal appearance is incredibly important in so many ways. I don’t think most people appreciate the effect which our self-image can have on us. So, I am disputing the “shallow” characterisation.
Or, put another way…
Yes, you’re so shallow, I don’t know why I bother reading your shallow posts on your shallow blog, actually. ;)
There, better? :p
Anyhow, back to jewelry.
The last time I wore jewelry was 1 October 2006. There’s even a photograph to document the moment, when I was showing the tattoo on my arse to some people. If you look carefully at the photo, you can see my grandmother’s dangling cameo earrings, and her bronze pendant. You can’t see from the picture, but the pendant features the Jewish Tree of Life, surrounded by symbols of the tribes of Israel. Also out of view, is a sort of opal bracelet watch thingy, also my grandmother’s, and also functional.
It is very important to me to wear functional things. I had the watch repaired (a tricky job apparently, as the watch housing in the bracelet was a non-standard size), and I had to get some gold hooks from a jeweller to replace the broken ones on the cameo earrings (which I then repaired myself).
I like those pieces because they are simple, elegant, and meaningful to me because of my grandmother (who is no longer living). The pendant is also meaningful to me because of the Jewish thing. But although I’d like to wear jewelry more often, I very seldom do, for several reasons.
1. I prefer only to wear dangly earrings instead of ones with posts, because my ears are set very close to my head and the posts dig into the skin behind my ears.
2. Wearing dangly earrings in my left ear interferes with the violin when I play it. I’ve lost too many single earrings through taking one out to play for the evening, so I mostly don’t bother anymore.
3. Necklaces dig into my neck underneath the violin when I play it, as well as risking scratching the body of my instrument, so those are out too, most of the time.
4. Bracelets interfere with my arms and hands when I play, unless they are perfectly close-fitting, so that rules out almost all of them except a watch.
5. Rings interfere with my fingers when I play, and also, there is a risk that if somebody grasps my hand too firmly, the rings dig in really painfully, so those are out too.
6. I prefer to wear things which elicit reactions more like “Wow, you look great”, instead of “Oooh, what a lovely [insert item here]“.
So really, that just leaves upper arm bracelets, of which there aren’t too many around. I’ve made a few, and worn a few upper arm bands, but mostly I don’t bother.
I knew I wasn’t going to be playing violin at the formal event in the photograph, so I was able to wear my grandmother’s jewelry, which was a rare pleasure. I enjoyed wearing it for the reasons above, and because I felt that it helped me look good without distracting attention from me by calling attention to itself.
I once asked kvetch about his feelings regarding me and jewelry. He said that he has little interest in giving me jewelry or seeing me in it because that isn’t my style. But he did like the way I looked on the formal evening in the photograph (which he took).
I’m thinking that function wasn’t entirely the aspect of jewelry-wearage which you were considering, but since that’s my primary consideration, I thought it might interest you, at least a bit. :)
Best regards,
Lubyanka. :)
Lady Julia,
I see not so much the adornment of the woman as I see the woman.
This is what is sexy; it’s the woman’s soulfulness; it’s the womans smiling tears of sadness or joy; it’s the strength of the gentle embrace and the softness of the woman’s electrifying whispers; it’s how the woman grabs my tie as she unbuttons my white shirt; it’s the woman’s kiss; it’s she and I as one. This is what’s sexy. Jewelry is only sexy to me if it’s so for the woman. Then, as adornment, it’s sexy as sexy is.
Respectfully,
willie
Of course we do! You would not want to be with someone who didn’t notice.
Most of the time women select pieces specifically for the occasion or for the effect. You can tell a great deal about women by the pride they take in their accessorizing.
Of course I notice a woman’s jewelry, along with most everything else about her.
And even if I didn’t, I would still be engaged with it:
“These earings, or these?” “You like these?” “Really?” “You’re not just saying that?”
“Is this too much?” “Your’re sure?”
“Do I need something with this dress?”
“Sould I buy these?” “You’re sure you like them?” “It’s not too much?” “Really?”
Hi Lady Julia, Happy Birthday!, belatedly.
Oh gosh yes I notice, admire, adore, and appreciate jewelry :-)
Write me and I will send you some cute photos of Lvey where she is actually wearign some!! :-)
I absolutely notice and really appreciate a woman with taste and sophistication – or playfulness, for that matter. Jewelry is part of expression, also of visual enhancement, whether explicitly noticed or not. I love it!
Chiming in a bit late, I know (I’m only a sporadic blog reader) . . .