Recently a reader asked:
"Do you think men can be trusted
not to masturbate if they are not locked up? Isn't it naive to think
they will comply without being forced to?"
As with most questions, there is of course no absolute answer.
Some men can, others can't.
When dealing with the issue of orgasm control and masturbation, it is
true that submissive men are on the honor system unless they are
physically prevented access. While a chastity device is very
desirable to some, use of one isn't at all appealing to me as a
regular method of control. I
opt for the honor system for a few reasons.
- Whenever I allow someone to submit to me, I choose someone
I believe I can trust. As the questioner inferred, many people
consider this naive and perhaps it is, but I can't be with someone
unless I believe they are honest with me.
- If my submissive lies to me, he's robbing not only himself
but me as well. Where is the control, the surrender, if he lies
about what he's doing? Since so much about dominance and
submission occurs in the mind, honesty and trust are paramount in a
Femdom relationship.
- I want to know he is obedient because he chooses to
surrender to my control and because he respects me. If the device
is controlling him, in my mind I am not. That's not necessarily
true for others, but it is for me.
All this doesn't mean I wouldn't enjoy having him wear a chastity
device for fun - my fun, not necessarily his ;) Toys can
certainly enhance play, but I never want either of us to reach a place
where we think they're
required.
~ Lady Julia
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*Related article:
Risk of Long Term
Male
Chastity
Are there potential risks to long term male chastity?
